Something a greek person could answer?

Question

I have a greek boyfriend of a year and half, hes been so good to me but we're having problems,

Why I mentioned that hes greek is because his values and what would be accepted in his family matters most to him and he has explained to me that its a "greek thing"

Its very hard knowing that he doesn't want any of his family to meet me or know that he has a girlfriend I'm close to his girl cousin and his dad has meet me but he still doesn't want to introduce me to anyone else , sometimes i think its because I'M NOT GREEK because I don't know if its stereotypical, ive been told that Greeks usually don't accept anyone out of their race(i hope i didn't offend anyone greek),

I'm Half Spaniard and Half American.

Is he ashamed of me or is he just not ready?

ps. nothing mean or sarcastic:)

Answer 1

I can't really answer your question with any certainty because I know neither you nor your boyfriend......and you don't mention your ages, if we knew this maybe the question would be easier to answer.  Does he live with his parents??  Also, you don't mention if his parents were born in  Greece or US.  This, too, might shed some light on what's going on.  

But anyway, here's what I'm thinking --->  Presuming his parents are from Greece, there is a chance that they want him to be with a "greek girl" and so he doesn't want to go through the hassle he would get if he were to introduce you.  So I think you are wrong in guessing that he is ashamed of you.......he probably just doesn't want to deal with any potential headaches right now.  

Another possibility is that he might want to make sure that  you are "the one" before he introduces u to anyone.  

Don't bet money on either of these explanations.  They may not even apply to your situation.  I'm just talking from my own experiences with Greek guys here in the States.

Answer 2

Hi girl,

I've eraised a part of my answer, see my edit2!

Edit: I agree with Asimenia with everything else but the intention of not getting married to you. Just give him time (but not wait for him for years!). A year and a half maybe is not enough for a relatively young man or for someone that is depenting financialy on his parents.

edit 2: He doesn't want them to interfere in his life! Greek parents can be indiscrete you know,and HE WANTS TO KEEP HIS PRIVACY!

In Greece there is a certain type of man that is concidered to be a 'right man', this is the type that do not 'kiss and tell'! This type will never discuss for past affairs with his wife, he will be very breaf even with his friends,because he thinks it is a dignity theme about him and he doesn't want to 'expose' a lady.

SO, ANOTHER ONE: HE DOESN'T WANT TO EXPOSE YOU, in case of a split up.

Answer 3

There can be no easy answer to this I'm afraid. It can only be speculation. It depends on a lot of things, like the level of education his family has had and if they only socialize with other Greeks. Also, many older generation Greeks that have migrated to western countries come from rural places that have not been very cutlured in the ways of the modern world. I am unsure of if they fall under any of these categories.

Let me say though that the problem in your case is underlying. It is not wether his parents are backwards or not. It's about how well you and your boyfriend communicate. If you ask him to explain what he means by 'It's a Greek thing' he should be able to give you a hint and through careful coersion you could drive the conversation to an answer. If he refuses to answer you, then obviously the issue lies with him and not his parents and I would advise you to think carefully in that case.

Also, bear in mind that you are both only 18. Bringing a girl home for your parents to meet in the Greek world means announcing to your family that you take that person seriously. At 18, if you are both wise people, you will accept the most serious scenario as 'we get along great and after we have done everything we want to do now that we're young and we're still in love with each other after, then there might be a future ahead for us'.

That is my opinion and in conjunction with the rest of the answers you have received, I hope it helps you a bit.

Answer 4

theres no such greek thing maybe hes not ready. greeks dont have a problem with foreigners but maybe he is a little concerned because of the fact that you are not greek. give him some time and you'll see

Answer 5

Zoi said it right. To meet the parents is usually by "tradition" in a way, the last thing to do before marriage. Many parents are old - fashioned and don't care to meet passing girlfriends, they just want to meet the bride. He is not ready for such things, maybe because of his age or something else, but that doesn't mean that there is no way that he will go there, just that he isn't ready right now.