Something really BAD wen i was young, now its hurting my relationship?

Question

ok, i dont want to get to detailed in this question, but i was molested by a L*****n (no offense to anyone who is...but she was), she was heartless, and well, lets just say used her nails to rip me up "inside" now i have flashbacks, my bf is a complete sweetie and deals with it... and keeps the flashbacks away from my mom, (she has too much to worry about, my parents just split up) but i think he's just as sick of them as me, i cry, blackout, i cant go to a counseler because theyll tell my mom, all she does is work and sleep now.... i cant worry her anymore....i dont know wat to do,

they keep me from fully trusting my bf, because at first i trusted the girl who did it....i was only 6 years old!

so how can i keep them from keeping me and my bf apart....

wat triggers them

GUYS= if it were u, wood u get sick of them and leave me....?

girls= wat wood u do if it were u....

by the way im 15

Answer 1

You need to be screened for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.  Most all people with your circumstances have relationship trouble.  There is no way around dealing with it, and to deal with it you'll need a counselor or a clergy member.  It's not fair if your mom knows about the ordeal but not about the flashbacks.  You have to talk to her, and get to see someone.  I don't think it's anywhere in any law that you have to discuss "who" did it to you.  I hope this helps.

Answer 2

If something like that were to happen to a girl I honestly cared about, I would never let that get in the way of my relationship with her. I'd talk with her about it when she needs it, hold her when she cries and tell her everythings is going to be alright. Which is completely true. It may have emotionally scarred you when you were young, but sooner or later the haunts will leave you and you can go back to living how you were meant to.

Hope I helped!

Kyle

Answer 3

I am 20 years old and when I was 5 years old I too was molested by an older WOMAN. Yes, it is a very difficult thing to cope with but maybe your flashbacks and you freaking out so much is a sign that youre not really ready to get intimate with anyone. You are only 15 and have the world ahead of you. Give yourself the opportunity to grow, learn and decide who you are and what you choose to let get to you. When it comes down to it, You are the only one who decides what bothers you and what doesnt. At your age you dont understand that yet cause your so unexperienced but give yourself a little time to heal and once you gain your self respect back... Then you can move on.  

Answer 4

you poorr girl

Answer 5

You aren't helping your mother by avoiding doing what, in the long run, will help her daughter (going to a counselor). Your mother would want whatever is best for your recovery.

Answer 6

Geez Maybe you should seek a therapist to help you cope with this.