Sometimes, is it best to just listen and not splatter the other person with what you really feel?

Question

I mean...sometimes...like when things just happen. Like when life just happens and you know you can't muster up enough courage to talk...so you just sit back and listen to what life says to you. Is that a bad thing? Because what if the things you here are actually pretty BAD in that sense of the world. But really, what can you do when there's just nothing left in you. Do you just let yourself go even though you know you'll eventually float down into a hallow, dark abyss?

Answer 1

I think that if you have a genuine sense that anything you might say to someone who makes you feel this way will be a waste of breath that you should save your breath and take whatever lesson you can from the experience.  Many people rant in a desperate attempt to connect I think but if it feels like it's deranged to you then I think it best to hold your tongue and move on.  Once you know yourself better and have your values pretty much worked out, you may find that you want to say something or respond in some way that may be useful to the other person.  It's when you get some dialog going that things get more interesting and productive.

Answer 2

Nah, stay out of that abyss. It is dark and it sucks.

Answer 3

expressing feelings is great.

never stay quiet, no matter what.

Answer 4

I'd offer the suggestion, which works for me, to put on some of your favourite music and just sit back and relax. Let the music flow over you and let it take you to another place. Learn to find peace within yourself and trust in God to guide you along. He knows what you are in need of.

"Dreams run deeper than despair."

"I never learned anything while I was talking."

"Listen and understand if you want to be understood."

Answer 5

always  

Answer 6

I think it's always best to quietly make plain where you stand.   Otherwise you find people misjudge you, with possible unwanted effects.    There's no abyss so dark as knowing you've betrayed your own integrity.    

Answer 7

No. it is not a bad thing.It is ok to sit back and listen to what life is tryign to tell you.

Answer 8

Follow your heart. Sometimes, it tells you the right thing.  

Answer 9

True,sometime its good to sit back and listen. To know the full story. To get all the info before you act. until that time you rest and let your body and mind recharge. You'll feel that energy again, the power and the will to do something, say something. Until then, wait. observe, relax, regroup, plan - then act.  

Answer 10

It happens, sometimes you just run outta fuel, and are at a complete loss of words, and or, are under the person's spell.

Answer 11

I once went two months without talking to anyone. And there is something after the dark abyss if you have the strenght to get through it.

Answer 12

There is something I heard once that stuck with me.

God gave us only 1 mouth, but 2 ears.  It must be more important to listen  in this world.  Plus, it is equally important to listen to yourself, your heart and what it tells you in any  current situations you face.

Thanks for reading!

Answer 13

it's better to say too much than to say nothing at all.

say what you need to say.

you know the song.

say - John Mayer lol

Answer 14

You could write down your feelings and keep a journal. It really helps. That way you don't have to tell anyone and get your feelings out at the same time. Also Art is another good way to let go of your feelings.

Answer 15

It not always a bad thing to sit back and relax, however be careful of your thoughts. If you are having thoughts that are negative and continue to make you feel sad I would talk to a counselor. If not having iinsurance is  an issue try to look into a mental health clinic. There is nothing wrong with asking for help if you need it.