Sometimes I feel bad to be g*y and all the pain I caused to my mother?

Question

sometimes I asked to myself.. why am I g*y? why do I have to fight to be accepted? and to find people who want me or tolerate g**s as friends.. and to tell to your friends or best friends.. if they don't like that.. they leave you alone.. but why? if being g*y is natural.. you wouldn't be necessary to be accepted or something like that or to say to your relatives or friends.. or don't know..I dont want to die but don't want to have g*y friends effeminate. most of g**s have only g*y friends because straight people disapprove g*y people.. why do i need to be approved for relatives or to be accepted? to battackeded by them.. of my gayness.. etc..btw I am suffering anxity.. I have attended two physcologists and one psyquiatric.. one physcologist told me made me some draws.. she told my mother she doesn't believe nobody born g*y..and the last one phsycologist that I am attending now made me to draw a tree,a lanscape, and a man and woman.. she said I am not.. if I can try, I can change, I should try with a girl, to love her.. but I dont want that, I dont feel comfortable, and my psyquiatric told me he can tried to change me in the first session.. after he told me I was born g*y.. well he said.. he have read and attended a congress about psiquiatric.

Answer 1

Don't change because people don't accept who you are. If you accept who you are, that's all that matters. I don't think that people really can chose who they are attracted to, attraction is something that just happens. I am straight and I have no problem with g*y people! I really like the idea that people can love whoever they want regardless of gender. Don't try to change for your mother either, if she doesn't approve it's just because there is something wrong with her way of thinking, not YOUR way of thinking. People ARE born g*y, and anyone who doesn't believe so is just basing it on religious bias. Just be who you are and enjoy it because it won't change, and don't feel bad for people who are "hurt" by your sexual orientation because the only reason it bothers them is because they are narrow-minded. PLease do whatever makes you happy.

Answer 2

you do not seem to have found much support or good strategies from either the psychologist or psychiatrist- and who made these appointments for you and why? The issue seems to be you coping with your sexuality, is this why you have had professional appointments ( i won't  say help as you have not been helped at all)

You appear to be not coping at all with your sexuality and your relationships with friends. Maybe you should contact a g*y support group as i'm sure you could benefit from advice from those who have been there and gone thru similar issues. Try not to make things over complicated for yourself either, your sexuality is only one part of you and your whole personality- fortunately we are seen as people not just our sexuality good luck

Answer 3

dont be sad or w/e

if the people around you love you when they thought you were straight than you being g*y shouldnt make a diffrence.....and they shouldnt be trying to change you.....

Answer 4

the reason why nothing is working out for you and you feel bad and are suffering from anxiety is because it is wrong to be g*y.

the bible says: " 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (NIV): "Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters, nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God."

Leviticus 20:13: "If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them."

there are more...but i dont want to list them all lol

God loves all homosexuals! However, He hates the deeds of homosexuality because they are sinful.

God's will is not for you to suffer and feel bad all the time...you dont have to listen to the shrinks and everything...they could have the same amount if not more problems than you. The  only one that can save you and deliver you and give you peace within is the Lord Jesus Christ!!

God bless you and many many prayers : )

Answer 5

hun, dont stress about it, your g*y :] live it upp have fun, EXPERIENCEEE!! there are way to many judgemental people in the worldd, whoo cares you are you and you dont have to change for anyone, the people who have excepted you are the ones who care and love you, the rest ahhh s***w emmm, well not literally  :]] hahah dont worry about it, and for your mother, shes going to love you no matter what.    :]

Answer 6

No one can tell you how to feel.  You can't help how you feel and you can't help being g*y.  Of course you did not choose to be g*y.  I didn't wake up one day and make a conscious decision to be straight.  No one does.

I wouldn't say that all straight people disapprove g*y people however you have many that do but you have to ask yourself...do you really want those kinds of people in your life?  If you were best friends with someone one day...and you tell them you are g*y and then they turn on you...were they ever really your friend?  

People tend to have a bad attitude about things they don't understand.  Homosexuality is one of those things that many don't understand causing a great deal of ignorence.  Unfortuantely, it sounds like your mother is one of those who does not understand and is not willing to make  an effort.  You can continue to talk to her however you aren't going to change her mind.  Ultimately it will be up to her to be open.  Maybe she needs to talk to a professional to help her accept this.

I'm wondering how old you are...because as you get older I bet you won't care so much.  One day you will just wake up and be happy with you.  You will be tired of worrying about hurting others for being yourself and just live your life doing what makes you happy.  I hope this day comes quickly for you because I'd hate to see anyone waste their time basing their life on what others think of them.

Answer 7

u didn't cause pain towards your mom... if she was upset in anyway its cuz she chose to be. and if you feel better to be with other guys then its your prefrance... don't let other peopls opinions affect you kay... because if you tried to make everyone else happy then you would be miserable.... if your mom doesn't like the gayness then its her issue... hopefully though she supports you, if not its her deal not yours... you be happy and be proud kay be liek "im g*y your and your over it.... any questions???"

good lucky