Sometimes I just hate to see what the future holds...

Question

I just overheard my mom say that my stepdad’s mom is in the hospital & that worries me. My grandma (my mom’s mom) was in the hospital once, before they let her come back home, which she stayed with us before she sadly passed away. And when I saw my stepdad’s mom (before she was in the hospital) it was like looking at my ailing grandma all over again. I’m scared that she’ll die, my stepdad will be devastated (and I hate to see people cry), and I’ll have to go to the funeral. I know I’m jumping to conclusions, but it’s just the fear of these things possibly happening really gets to me.

I have talked to my mom about this problem once before & all she told me was, “Don’t worry about it until you get there.” The deal is, I don’t want to wait until I get there. I want to avoid it at all cost. Thus, is another the reason why I really want to move out of my parents’ house: so I can avoid bad news about other family members.

Answer 1

Some things in life are hard to deal w/ & we all have to find ways to cope. The best thing is to put it all in God's hands!  

Answer 2

i do not think your being self fish at all this is a problem that every single person has delt with in their life. no one wants to see someone they love hurt or pass away. your being sentimental.

However you can avoid this, this is life. if you didnt want to over hear it you should of left the room...easier said then done though.

You will never get away form hearing bad news but think of it this way you have an advantage of knowing what is going on and that gives you extra time form others to grieve and to try and put this passed you. you can console your step father and that about it. im sorry to hear about this and i wish you all the best. keep your chin up and face the matter head on

Answer 3

Nobody wants to be around death, depression and feeling that horrible loss of emotional control!  People cope in different ways, some move away from their loved ones to make separation easier, others are too smothering.  No one should expect you to dive right in if emotionally you're unable to.  Don't let anyone tell you how you should behave, unless you want to change you do what you have to to get by.  It does get easier as you mature and by that time you'll have found a way handle loosing someone with out feeling like you're going to lose it yourself!  Good luck!

Answer 4

sometimes i just hate to see what the future hold...

             answer= i do not worry about a thing in this world,i take life one day at a time,the future is not ours to see,it is in god's hands .