Sometimes I think I'll never experience true love...?

Question

I have had relationships in which the man was terrific in the beginningand then he turned into a jerk. I see and meet wonderful men, but they never seem to want me. It's always the jerks I attract. What am I doing wrong? I am nice, smart - but tend to be very quiet. I am also reserved, I don't drink or smoke and I am into health. Why can't I meet a man like that too? I seem to meet all the alcoholics and emotional abusers and users.

Answer 1

change where u meet ur men. dont pick them up in bars or off the street. go to a singles club or meet them at the gym. not off the web or newspaper. u have to really look for that special someone. he could live right next door or be that best male friend u've had for years. take ur time and dont worry. u'll find mr. right soon. but first u have to go through all the wrong ones. so u'll know what the right one looks like.

Answer 2

get a dog.

Answer 3

If you are a member at a gym, that would be a good place, since your into health, and obviously they would be too. Maybe try online dating? I think its a good way to get to know someone before meeting and having any expectations. Its like online shopping, but for a boyfriend!  

Answer 4

we all meet the occassional jack a$$. The problem is that we fall for them.

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Answer 5

What all the losers have in common is you. That sounds harsh but here's my point. Most people have dating patterns. Try to figure out what all of them have in common (especially what attracted you to them).

Also focusing on yourself and putting less emphasis on finding love outside of yourself takes the pressure off a little. Moreover it may yeild great responses from others.

Find your own glow and nurture your confidence. Best of luck!

Answer 6

get some counseling for low self esteem,

that will help in the choice of men and the feelings you have.

You will find someone it just takes time.

Answer 7

You sound like my twin.  I do the same thing too.  I find I can't take rejection at all and the men I want to go out with, aren't attracted to me.  Are you a CODA?  I am and am working on being comfortable and liking me.  I plan to look at future possible men with the idea, if I had a daughter, would I want her to go out with him? Why/why not?  ..since I don't seem to look at the red flags for myself, I plan to try this technique, to help me run away from losers.  Hope this helps.