Son's teacher is being stalked?

Question

My son is in second grade....

His teacher is wonderful and has done so much for my son (he has a learning disability and she has helped him tremendously).

However this teacher has a stalker, he is appearing at the school and I am afraid for his safety, as much as we love his teacher I think they should find a replacement until this situation is resolved, other parents are already threatning to pull their kids out of school, and I am considering doing the same, I already talked with the principle and he said "we are working on it" and nothing more. Am I doing the right thing to want to pull my child out? The teacher is wonderful and I realize she has no control over this but for heaven's sake their are children involved and my son is afraid. What should I do?

Answer 1

It is sad that you actually have to do anything, the school's administration should really be taking care of this.

Of course you should put your child's needs first.

Can you go above the principal?

Answer 2

I am really sorry to hear what you and your son, and his teach is going through. Even though she is a fantastic teacher, you can not hope that nothing happens to your child. You have to take action, I would pull my kid out. I don't think that the teacher should be laid off, but maybe put on leave until the situation is resolved. It is a dangerous world out there, don't risk it! Good Luck!

Answer 3

Why are the police not involved?  Stalking is a criminal offense.  If they know who this man is, they can charge him.

Answer 4

I think you should talk to the teacher about her taking a few days off so that she can get this guy to leave her alone.

Do you have any idea as to who the guy is? An ex or a relative, or is he just some guy?

Good luck, and if the situation isn't resolved, I would put my kid in a different class or maybe even school.

Answer 5

I think if the principal is not resolving the issue, you need to go over his head and talk to someone in the district, his boss. I know that this a difficult situation but if you are afraid for you sons safety, you have the right to go above the principal. I mean don't fire the teacher, just make sure the stalker is being taken care of. It's not fair to the teacher, she cannot control that mans actions. The police should get involved in this situation. Especially if children are involved.

Answer 6

you are the one responsible for your child.and no one else.

Answer 7

I do believe I would call the local police department and have a talk with them.... and the superintendant of the school district.

I don't believe that the victim should be persecuted by the school district.  I believe the school district should have the safety of the students as a primary concern however and would have a huge problem if people can walk up to the kids and hand them notes (whether to give to a teacher or to invite them to a 'get together' after school)

If the teacher has a stalker, the teacher can file the necessary stuff so the stalker stays away from the teacher.  But the principal of the school does not need  the 'necessary stuff' to protect the well being of the children.  Having a police officer at the school should be a common place thing these days.  Having the police officer escorting the stalker away would not be unheard of.  If the stalker was on school grounds, escorting the guy away in handcuffs would not be uncalled for either.

It is beat into every teacher, every administrator, every employee of a school district, that the safety of the children takes priority over everything else.

Answer 8

Notes being given to the kids to pass to teacher?  That's really messed up.  I would raise another voice to the principal, then to the school board, then to the police with documented reports from your son and anything you or other parents are doing about the situation.  As a mother, use your instincts, and if you are not feeling safe with your child around this situation, then you might transfer him to the next closest school near you.  You inquire about it.  Another option is home schooling until this is under control.  Good luck.

Answer 9

i dont blame you for wanting your son out of the situation, id probably do the same thing too. then again....if i could do something to make sure the kids were protected while at school....such as, getting the police involved, getting the other parents along with you to make the school board do something, and i would gather up all the parents who dont work or can take the time off to let their children stay in school, but remain there with the kids during the day. more eyes and more hands on the situation to make sure your children are protected. the police and the school board arent going to be nearly as vigilant about the children's safety. a parents instinct is to protect their children at any cost.

Answer 10

That teacher needs to put a restraining order on the man and if he shows up at the school then the cops should be called....how's security at the school? Do you have to be buzzed in? I would be worried too if I were you...who knows if this guy will try to harm the teacher and hurt the kids too....whew, yea the teacher should DEFINATELY be stepping up security there.

Answer 11

pull him out. what else.?

Answer 12

well, i'm sure the school can't fire her just because she has a stalker! i would hope the school would take major measures to make sure everyone (including both the students and the teacher) were safe.  and i'd hope the police would take care of it before it goes any further!

that said, i understand your feelings as a parent, and i can't say i wouldn't feel the same way.  i would at the very least want from the principal a detailed plan of how they were going to keep this person away from school grounds.  if i wasn't reassured about that i would probably also be trying to switch my child into a different class ... which is totally unfair to the teacher, but i agree we do have to put our kids' safety first.

edit -- geez, after reading that he's giving the kids notes on the playground, i'd absolutely keep my kid home until the school could 100% reassure me that that guy is not going to be on school grounds or anywhere near the kids.  go to the school superintendent and also call the police!!!

Answer 13

You can never be too careful. You may want to tell the police about what is going on if the principal isn't.

Answer 14

Oh I feel for you but yes you are doing the right thing.

First off I admire the school for admitting this. I am sure this was hard for the teacher and school to admit. But it was the right thing to do.

I'd keep my son and away from the school. You never know what a stalker will do and sadly the stalker himself or herself doesn't know either, that is why it is so scary.

I wouldn't let him return tomorrow! You never know!

I'm a homeschooling mom so if you do pull your child out you'd be teaching him from home till you find another school or something.  

This is the website we follow for our homeschool with just a few changes. It is free and has everything you need to start homeschooling.

http://oldfashionededucation.com/

Also check out the laws for your state.

http://www.hslda.org/laws/default.asp

My suggestion pull the child out of school today. Call the school and inform them that for fear of your child's safety you are going to keep him out of school till it is safe to him to return. Tell him you would like suggestions on how to educate  him till he returns.

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Read your added details:

I am STUNNED that a public school would allow a STALKER to give notes to kids! How in the world is this man even getting near the children! This school has no protection. This is crazy.

There is no way on earth I would let my child return to that school. If a stalker can get in touch with the children who knows who else could sneak in! At school near us a poor girl was raped when a strange man just walked into the school unseen by any one. Shocking!

We homeschool our kids because we can't afford private school either. I do know of some churches around the USA that offer school. So you may want to look into that too. My uncle teaches at one of these.

Answer 15

i think ur duin tha rite thing becuz if sum1's stalkin tha teacher it's prolly cuz he's crazy and i would want my kid 2 b safe and feel safe

Answer 16

Oh my gosh. That is so scary. I'm sorry, and I hope that it gets cleared up.

That man is approaching your son and it's best to pull him out until it's resolved. If you decide not to for some reason, him and his classmates need to know to NOT TALK TO THIS MAN.

That man needs to be reported to the police (he probably has been) and arrested.

I'm pretty sure there's a rule about creepy men approaching kids on the play ground.

Do you know what the notes sad by any chance? Good thing to bring up with the police.

You and the other parents should talk to the school board about having an officer, or two, at your sons school until it's resolved. If for some reason you can't get an officer involved then they need to stay in the class for recess.

Who knows, he might come to the school armed or something.

Good luck, really.

Answer 17

pull him out NOW!!! what if instead of notes next time he brings a gun?? its not like he would be the first.the teacher ought to be given time off WITH pay to get this resolved, maybe then the school board would stay on the police to do something and she would be kept safe. unfortunately stalking  is almost legal since they wont do anything until they actually harm you, and youre lucky if anything is done then, but my kid/s would NOT be doing back until it was resolved, get as many parents as you can to do the same, and it shouldnt take long to get the school board to open its eyes.