Son asked to remove earring for school?

Question

My son got his ear pierced on Sunday with a small hoop. When he went to school on Monday he was sent to the principals office and I was called and told that the school frowns against hoop earrings and although the piercing is acceptable the hoop is not. I went to the school and asked for the dress code and a lady that works in the office asked to stay nameless but stated that a girl has never been sent to the office because of her earrings.

We were not happy about it but did replace the hoop with a stud on Monday night.

On Tuesday my son went back to school and informed me that girls in his glass have hoop earrings.

We are trying to get information from LAUSD but so far there is nothing that states this is wrong. The schools explanation was that it is a safety hazard which we can understand but what is the difference of a girl wearing hoops or a boy wearing them?

My son is 9 years old and in 4th grade. I do need some advice but please no rude comments about my sons earring.

Answer 1

i am going though the same thing with my sons school in ARIZONA about his shoes and his belt that he wears to school and he is in the 1st grade and they said if he wear either things to school that he will get kicked out for 3 days so you know what he is sitting home right now  for that reason Sweetie stand your ground on this i don't see a problem with your son wearing a earring to school stud or hoop it shouldn't matter and if they kick him out take it to the school board of the school that your son is in so i say send him with the hoop in ear and tell them to kiss you A*S

Answer 2

While I have never been a fan of boys wearing earrings I am completely against the double standard. You should fight for it all the way but teach your son to do it in a respectful way. Don't put the hoop back in until you get approval since the adult authorities have already told your son he can't wear it you want to make sure he respects the teachers but continue to get approval from the school board or have the rules enforced for both boys and girls.

Answer 3

Alot of schools want there students to look better than others. If he did have an earring I can understand why the principal would want the earring to be gone.

Answer 4

Sounds like an unimportant molehill that you can make a mountain of if you wish..

Things you learn early in life.... when you are in someone elses house or work for someone, you follow their rules.. no matter how silly they seem....

If you want to press this, you would force the girls to wear studs..

The girls parents will be mad at you, not the school, for causing trouble over trivialities...

Choose your battles....

Answer 5

this is an age old thing and in my opnion boys look stupid with earrings.  And yes I have MEN in my family with them, but not school aged boys...come on.

Answer 6

There isn't anything wrong with your son wanting an earring.  What is the big deal, I say.

It looks like your school has a double-standard and I would love to see this go up against the school-board.  When it comes down to it, it's okay for girls and not boys and there is something wrong with that.  Don't let them bully you.  It's his style, your okay with it, and that should be the end.  It's not like he's wearing offensive clothing (shirts with foul language, jeans with holes where you can see his undies, etc).  

Your son will learn a lot more if you stand up for him than if you tell him he has to conform because of someone else's uptight rules.

Answer 7

Well, they cant have a double standard. If the girls can wear them then the school really cannot stop your son from wearing them. Especially if there is nothing in the dress code. If you really want him, or he really wants to wear the hoop earring then I would talk to the school and tell them(trying to be as respectful as possible) that he is going to wear the hoop earring until they put it in the dress code that it is not allowed and also enforce that the girls do not wear them either. Thats probably what I would do.

Answer 8

Well, I am a believer in choosing your battles, but one battle that I think is worth fighting for is lack of gender discrimination.  If the school had a rule of no hoop earrings across the board, I'd say that was stupid but not worth fighting over.  Since they seem to have a rule that applies to boys but not girls, I would think it was a worthwhile thing to teach my son that rules like that aren't fair, and that fairness is worth standing up for.

Answer 9

Noticed you say WE were not happy about it.  Who wanted the piercing?  You or your kid?  

Sounds like a double standard, but why does your 4th grader need a pierced ear with a  a certain type of hoop earring?  

Admit that it's not common for 4th graders to have piercings and cut your losses.  Not worth fighting LAUSD over something this silly.