Son home from college for Labor Day weekend and.....?

Question

I havent seen him for more than 20 minutes I dont think! I drove up and picked him up- and I missed him sooooo sooo much while he was gone and I was really hoping to spend atleast one day with him before he went back and he spent the entire time with his best friend. He wasnt even home at night. I mean I know he missed his friend but I was hoping he would want to spend some time with me too. I guess Im just feeling a little hurt that he didnt want to spend any time with his mom! Am I being selfish? Im not saying anything to him about it because he is almost 18 and I know its time for him to live his life now but it still hurts none the less.

Answer 1

you should tell your son how you feel i bet he didnt mean to hurt your feeling. call he and let him know that your feeling are hurt and yowould of loved to spend time with him  

Answer 2

how do you expect to get anywhere with this problem if you dont say anything to him about it? that's your son...why wouldnt you say anything? i doubt he's a mindreader....so express your feelings to him MOM

Answer 3

As long as you know he's not trying to hurt you purposely... we tend to put our parents on the back burner sometimes... i use to all the time when visiting home... now im 26 married and have a child.. and everytime i go home... i spend pretty much all of time with my parents... i pretty sure every kid does this to their parents at one point in life... so dont feel bad... just ask him if you can have one entire day with him before he goes... take him shopping and to dinner or something.. we may not act like it sometimes.. but all love spending time with our mommies!  

Answer 4

You should tell him how you feel. You are not being selfish to want to spend quality time with your son, kids at that age focus solely on partying and having fun so don't take it to the heart if you tell him how you feel next time he will aware of how you feel and spend time with you

Answer 5

yea its because he is 18 and his friends are importnant but tel him you want to spend time with him and how you feel and im sure he'd be happy to hang out with you..

but what does this have to do with pregnancy???

Answer 6

awww its okay..im 23 and have a life of my own now, child included...but i did the same thing to my mom. from 17 until i created my own family (We now have a 2 month old boy) i was more interested in friends and partying , but now that i have matured and experienced the world on my own a little...i am more close to my mom than i have been in years. your boy is just wanting to have some fun and get out as much as possible. he will come around eventually....unless he marrys a controlling woman! watch out for that lol

Answer 7

It's never selfish to want to spend time with your children.You are suffering from empty nest syndrome.

I too went through this problem 4 times with each of my daughters. I was also jealous of the friend they spent time with.

You just have to face the fact that your son is growing up. being jealous is a big no no. You may just alienate him. Let go, they always come back to mommy.  

Answer 8

Sorry hun but you might get more answers to your problem if it weren't in the pregnancy part. Good luck with your problem.

Answer 9

Aw! :( I know how you felt, I would do the same if he was my son, your not selfish! Maybe let him hang out with friends first cause he will stay weekend right? asked him if he want be with you in after the day cause you want be with him before he go back to the college, talk with him and tell him how you felt.