Son in first grade trouble?

Question

My son evidently took toy's to school today, (we have already had a talk) but the bad thing is one was a kid' recorder and this other kid said "I like s**y girls with big b***s and i like to kiss their lips" I told him "I don't care who said it, you are not allowed to take toy's to school, and you do not talk like that even if it wasn't you those are not nice things to say.

My son is 7 years old in first grade, has anybody else ever had a problem?

This kid that he hangs around with has gotten him into trouble two times already. This kid threw a rock at him, and then my son in defesne threw one back, and they both lost their last field trip.

I know my son was wrong to take a toy, and I let him know that and took it away

I mean really, what else can i do about this situation today. Tell him he made a bad choice to take the toys to school, tell him he's hanging around with a bad person, and tell him he needs to make better choices before someone get's hurt or into more trouble.

Answer 1

its peer pressure they often do and say what others tell them  my son was in 1st and got in trouble on the bus for asking a female kindergartner if she wanted to have s*x? come to find out one of the older kids told him to say this and he just thought it would be funny after talking to my son just like you did and sending him to his room he comes out and says mom what is having s*x is it like having candy or having cake?most of the times my son has gotten into trouble by another kid it has been 1 of 3 staff kids at the school.if that is the case with your son you may never put an end to it because those kids get away with alot.

Answer 2

Check back Pack before you guys leave, take that toy away or perhaps even throw the toy away, or sell/trade it for something if it's expensive.  It's hard to tell kids that other kids are bad people.  He's a bit too young to understand the fullness of that situation.  Plus you don't want him to tell other kids, ah heck I don't know.  But obviously he's still taking toys to school so I'd try to nip that in the bud.  As far as the "bad kid", find out who his parents are and then talk with them?  See what kind of people they are.  Voice concerns with the teacher.

Good luck!

Answer 3

It's really important to make sure that he knows what he did was wrong, but it sounds like a punishment is in order.  Nothing too harsh, but something just right so that he knows you won't put up with this kind of c**p any more.  Just make sure he knows why he is being punished.  He's young, you get to decide who his friends are.  

Good luck!

Answer 4

You've got it covered!  It might also be good to be pro-active and talk things over with the teacher and/or principal, to let them know that while your son is responsible for his own actions, the combination of him with the other kid is not a good one.  They will probably be very supportive, and it may help if this happens again.  "If you lie down with dogs, you get up with fleas."  Good luck.

Answer 5

First of all, he is SEVEN.  Thats not even double digits.  In my experience in raising kids, many times teachers themselves over-react therefore you as the parent over-react.  Dont lose clarity of mind!!! He may have made a bad choice but most of us make choices based on experience and at 7 how much life experience does he have? Have your child tell YOU why he shouldn't hang out with the troublemaker.  It'll work out best if he himself can see the reasons....

Answer 6

i once took my toys to school (3) and my father as punishment took away all the toys in my bedroom for 3 days. (i was 8) i understand now why its wrong. explain to your son that its wrong and that you are only looking out for him and teaching him the right way and that when he takes his toys to school he could lose it or it could break or someone will take it because it is such a cool toy. Then lay down the punishment, as i see punishment is the reason for all the good and bad things kids do in their future, and for all the times hes ever taken his toys to school take away all the toys in his room for (X) amount of days.

          i know that this seems like a cruel and brutal punishment and i understand your son is in first grade but the younger he learns his lesson and the tougher you are on him the better and more appropriate he will act in the future.

I hope i answered this question to your satisfaction!

Answer 7

First off, the toy thing is the least important of this situation. You talked with him and you just don't allow him to take toys.

The bigger issue is that kids this age do not know how to discern a  good choice of a friend. The parents need to step in and assist, talk with your child about what makes a good friend. (one that gets you in trouble, not a good choice)

I personally would contact the parent who's child is talking like that on the tape player. That would have me the most concerned.  Let your son know that it's important that the mommy's talk about this kind of talking because it's not okay.  And maybe you might even ask him if he thinks it's okay to talk like that.  Perhaps they feed off each other.

Answer 8

I think you've pretty much covered the basics of this situation...you talked to him about what needs to change....if he continues to hang out with this boy and keeps getting in trouble then you should try a harsher punishment.