Son in pre-k and Aide is not nice!!!?

Question

My son is in Prek and the teachers aide lives right acroos the street form me. She won't speak to my son when he is outside playing and he yells hi to her. I have told him not to. For some reason she doesn't like my family. I can't tell you why I have no clue. We are decent people and I don't let me child run wild we are always with him. She is always negative to me son. I have talked to the school and they won't talk about it because it's out of school problem. I talked to her and she said there is no problem. There very obviously is. What should I do? They is only one pre k class. She won't even answer my son in class she sends him to the teacher to help him, but she will help the others.

Answer 1

Keep going back to the principal. Point out that she is treating your son badly in class and that makes it an "in-school" problem. She should not be working with children.

Answer 2

I am a parent of a child who has autism and she has an aide with her fulltime in the school with her.  It sounds to me that your son's aide is not doing her job which is to help your son in school.  What she does outside the school, however, is not for the school to deal with obviously.  I would definately bring it to her bosses attention, if it is the principal or whomever.  She has to be there for your child 100%.  If she doesn't like you or your family, then just be polite and say hello if you see her near you and that's it.  If you have to explain to your son why is your aide not helping you or saying hello to him, then simply tell him the truth that some people are not nice people and that's just the way it is.  My daughter had a teacher when she was in third grade that wasn't a "nice teacher".  But she managed out the year and I kept telling her that next year she will get a better teacher.  I explained to her when mommy was in school, it happened to me too.  I would get a "not nice" teacher one year then a really good one another year.

Answer 3

i have no idea say its an inschool problem that carries over to out of school and cal lthe school back becasue she wont help your child in class otherwise i have no idea

Answer 4

I hate to suggest this, but I've encountered a lot of racism where I live. I just want to bring that up as a possibility because despite how we try to advance and make our society a better place, there are still people who for their own reasons do not like certain races. I bring this up, because I've had this problem in a setting with children where I used to work. Even if your race is different from the teacher aid's, not jump to the conclusion that that is the problem. I just wanted to get that in the air from my own experiences. :]

Other than that, I would go to the principal, I wouldn't try to handle this on my own. Tell them that it is affecting your child's learning because the aid for whatever reason she may have does not care to tend to your child. She would prefer to send him elsewhere. Go from there, it's a good start and has had to be done in my previous job.

As for the child, does he feel hurt by this? If he does, just let him know it has nothing to do with him.

Answer 5

Maybe she just doesn't want to be bothered out of school.  I'm a computer security researcher and I definately don't want to come home and remove viruses from my neighbor's computer all night, even though I'm friendly, I still want to keep work at work.  Not sure why she would act so distantly toward him at school.  Perhaps he's getting the wrong impression because you are channeling your negativity of her to him.

Answer 6

if nothing is being done about the situation talk to your son and have him to only deal with the teacher if he can. the aide is there to help all not just who she wants. and why isn't the teacher doing or saying anything about it.

Answer 7

Maybe she is afraid it will be viewed as favortism? Really no idea why she would behave so mean though...