Son left at camp - miscommunication?

Question

Yesterday, my son was left at camp after his father's GF never called to tell me that I needed to pick him up since his father was sick. Supposedly she sent a text message - which I never got. I was and am really MAD about this. He yelled at her and told her that she was irresponsible etc etc. This morning he told me that she is really sorry and that she cried for like an hour. My thought is too bad - she really screwed up and she needs to apologize at a minimum to me. We are supposed to all go have my daughter's pictures taken this afternoon, but now I don't even want to see the GF. Am I over reacting? Since she apologized to him should I just let it go? Any input is appreciated.

Thanks!

Answer 1

This isn't the hill to die on.

Always think of your kids, and never bring adult disagreements into a situation where they're present.

You also might be projecting worse case scenario, since she could easily apologize as soon as she sees you.  But if she doesn't, let it go, at least while the kids are around.

Answer 2

That's a tough situation but unfortunately it's probably not the last time something like this will happen - I mean the dad's girlfriend thing.  She's under a microscope and anything she does may be a little tough on your family.  I agree that she should apologize and maybe she will.  In the meantime, you need to keep your wits about you!  Good luck!  I don't envy you a bit!

Answer 3

be the bigger person- tell the GF that she should CALL you when it is something important like the children.

Maybe she is scared of you- or doesn't like the confrontation of a phone call.

Regardless you should be looking out for the wellbeing of the children- if they see you all pissed off about her then it will not be teaching them a good lesson-

Answer 4

I don’t understand why you’re only mad at Girlfriend.  It’s not her responsibility to inform you, it’s Dad's.  And unless he was unconscious, he could have done it himself.  He’s just a responsible for this as she is.  And if I were Girlfriend and Dad 'yelled' at me after I'd *done him a favor* (and she claims she sent the text) I would have told him to kiss my b*tt.  With that said, had I been Girlfriend I would have either called you or requested that you reply to the text message to verify receipt of it.  But again, it was not her responsibility to do this.

Answer 5

That's tough to answer, as once people go down the road of divorce and new gf and kids involved etc., etc., it's rare that anything good comes of the situation.  The particulars are just that, particulars, but in the bigger picture this sort of thing will occur over and over again.