Son too soon?

Question

My son (13) has started putting up new posters on his wall and they are not as innocent as the last ones...one is of christina aguilera (with only a guitar covering her),and the other is of jessica simpson in a bikini.

My question is have any other mothers been through this?Should I be worried he's doing more than looking at them?

Answer 1

I wouldn't consider it a problem at all.  Sounds pretty typical to me and what he does in the privacy of his room is his business.  Stop worrying about nothing.  He is just a normal 13 year old boy.

Answer 2

You should only worry if the posters are of boys or transsexuals.

Answer 3

That your 13 year old is becoming aware of the opposite s*x is perfectly normal.

What you might want to have a chat with him about is in regards to the 'objectifying of women as sexual toys'.

If you have religious beliefs that prohibit this sort of display and the attendant behavior of masturbation that sometimes accompanies the display, then discuss things on those terms.

If you are simply repulsed by them personally, you can have him put them on the inside of his closet door so that you are not having to see them all of the time (provided he keeps his door closed).

While this is a battle of personal moral standards, if this is the only battle you have with your child, be grateful.

Answer 4

This is pretty normal for his age, but if you feel that they aren't appropriate then you have every right to take them down. But make sure you talk to him and explain to him why you feel like he shouldn't hang them up. But I feel like they are pretty harmless. You could always compromise and get a poster of Christine Aguilera with clothing on.*

Answer 5

There is nothing you can do to stop the hormones whether the posters are up or not. I would be more concerned about whether or not he respects women or looks at them as objects. If you have other children (girls or younger children) in the house you may want to be careful of what message he is sending to the other kids. Of course if the posters make you uncomfortable then you should make him take them down. It's your home and he is only 13.

Answer 6

All normal stuff - just wait till the next round of poster changes...... ok, you can breath now!! lol good luck ♥

Answer 7

Don't worry - he's doing more than just looking at them.  I'd also advise you not to think too much about it.  Just be glad that the posters are of hot girls instead of firemen!

[edit]  I thought about it and I was wrong - there'd be nothing wrong with him "looking at" posters of firemen.  If that's what he likes, then it isn't up to us to say any different.

Answer 8

You need to tell him to take the posters down or spend more time with him

Answer 9

Yep, he's a normal 13-year-old boy!   I wouldn't worry....he's doing the same thing as all the other boys his age, all over the country.

Answer 10

It seems like you've asked this same question several times before.  Yes, at 13 he masturbates, probably while he looks at the posters.  Any normal, healthy teenage boy would.  Leave him alone.  Would you prefer that he m********e to posters of Lance Bass or Mario Lopez?

Answer 11

It would be sooooooooo nice if they stayed little forever but sorry mom he is growing up and is perfectly normal.  Look at it this way he could be covering the wallls with all of the male stars!!!!!!!