Sooo I started drinking [partying] early in my teens..

Question

and first off, with drinking, it was fun, didn't really get too crazy waisted.. but I guess as the years went by, it got worse and worse. I mean, there would be times, where I just really got out of hand, and my friends would have to take care of me. And I will never forget the first time that I got really bad, to the point where I was throwing up in a friends car, when I thought ' maybe I should take a break from drinking, and settle down.' But as time went by, more parties started approaching, I would find myself always giving in, and getting really drunk. The next morning, I would NEVER not regret what I did the night before, I would always be like.. man, why did I do that? It just really got to me. But then again, I would still keep drinking everytime when our group of friends would go out. It's like I tell myself that I am not going to drink, and in reality, I know I can't do it. And the only times when I take breaks from drinking is when I do something REALLY stupid, and completely regret it more than any time before. Annnnd again, I'd always give in, and want to do it agian. Recently I've noticed the distance I've been getting with guys, because they've seen and heard how out of control I can really be, and really, if I keep this up, I KNOW it's not going to be good. I just need some helpful words that can maybe get me to really change this stupid habbit, and going on with my life. I want to have fun when we go out, don't get my wrong.. buttt I just don't want there to also be regret the next day.

Soo basically my question is,

what should I do?

Answer 1

I'd start getting into AA meetings. You should try to stop it now because in the future it will be way worse. Ask your friends to help you. Cut you off when you're starting to get too drunk.

Answer 2

i was in your situation and still kind of am... i started drinking when i was 14 and am now 20. i would say to:

1. find friends who no matter what how many times you say no... will not let you get black-out wasted.

2. don't go home with guys... if they are truly interested they still will be the next day, week, month... get their phone number instead.

3. don't hang out with people you don't trust, or who will leave you if you get sick.

4. find someone/or a few people who don't drink who agree to be there for you anytime you need them.. whether its a ride, a couch to sleep on, or just someone to talk you out of doing something stupid..

5. find a couple of guys who will stick up for you if other guys start spreading rumors.. or talking about what you do. who also won't try to take advantage of you themselves...

i drink A LOT, and have done NOTHING i regret because my friends know my standards, as well as what i am comfortable doing.. i have gone home with plenty of guys who haven't tried anything with me because they know better. i make it clear to the guys i hang out with and meet, that i am not like that and am not interested in "hooking up" with them so they don't take advantage of the fact that i'm drunk. i think that guys respect that as well and in turn will look out for you in other situations when you might not know what you are doing or when you're sick.. so make friends with good people who respect you... anyone who doesn't isn't worth your time. so i wouldn't say quit drinking and partying... because it is fun. just make sure the people you are hanging out with know what you stand for and what you are comfortable with. say no as many times as you have to... to whatever it is you aren't comfortable with.. and if in order to get your point across you don't drink the next few times you go out, it is well worth it. and don't go back on your word, don't say you won't do something and then turn around, get wasted and do it, because then no one will respect you. .. . i hope this helps a little bit... just try and let people know what you're thinking. hopefully everything will work out for you and try not to regret the things you do, just the things you don't!

Answer 3

That was me.....

I even got alcohol poisoning (horrible expeience !!!) Nurse was a B****, I kept cussing her out(i was soooooooooo messed up), stomach pumped, I had to stay there for a day !!! HORRIBLE...:( Also, not to mention the bills.......

I stopped though, Try getting a medicine that like you will die if you drink alcohol while on it, like depression medicine (that's what I did, but in my case I actually have depression)

Answer 4

hah u gotta keep it under control ik its like hard i used 2 b like that w weed like id get so stoned like id wake up high the next day and same thing i struggled with alcohol 4 awhile but anyway like u gotta like limit urself like if u wana get buzzed or drunk or w.e but have no regrets just like dont get p**s drunk its not so hard just keep ur limit under 4 or 5 drinks and u wont do anything stupid

Answer 5

hey, there is a party at mine this weekend. drinks are free. wanna come?

Answer 6

story of my life

Answer 7

God I feel you on this one. I am a horrible drunk, one of my best friends said this about me and it's super true 'you want one beer, you want another. You want another beer after that, and then you just want ALL THE BEER!!' - don't matter how much I try to control or limit my consumption I allways end up faced and totally out of control - then feeling dreadful the next day, embaressed and resentful.

I stopped drinking for a month and last night I got faced (was in bed until 7pm today puking!!)  - anyway I thinnk the answer is no not give up giving up. I used to smoke 20 a day and it took me 2 years of a stupid cycle (dont smoke for a month, smoke for a week, feel terrible and quit or another month) anyway I NEVER smoke now, and eventually I'll never drink, just got to keep trying. I would love to be a chick who could have a casual beer with friends, but basically I can't and that's that.

In the month I gave up drinking, my confidence really went iup and I was so happy with the control I had over my life and myself. Making progress with things and feeling really healthy. It's worth it I promise, just keep doing it. Eventually you'll know that you will never touch a drop again - people like us need to look after ourselves to make sure we don't end up drunk at 50 years old wishing we'd have done something before it was too late.

Good luck girl, you're not alone. The fact you KNOW it's not good for you makes you smarted then most people.

UPDATED!!

I just read the answer underneath mine and while I think it's great to have friends you can trust, I think you should also be able to trust yourself. You want to stop, and you can - be responsable for yourself and let your friends have a good time without babysitting you. They may care about you enough to keep an eye on you but really that's your job! I have friends who look after me but I hate feeling I've been a pain or a burden hope this helps YOU CAN DO IT!!

Answer 8

Hmm, if you find out.. Please let me know!

I'm exactly the same.. Infact last weekend i got so wasted i sprained my foot (this is the second time it's happened too), and i have bruises on my chin, ***, elbows, and scraped knees.. I'm guessing I fell over, but to be honest, I have noo idea.