Sorry, but since abortion is the topic today.?

Question

I have a hypothetical.

Say your pregnant with my child. I want the baby but you dont. You want an abortion. I really dont want this so i offer to take care of it completely, no responsibility on your end. I draw up a contract that you can sign to make this legally binding.

Would you still have the abortion?

Answer 1

I often hear of a woman's right to keep the child or have an abortion,but what about a baby's right to live?

that's the problem with people they don't want women to suffer of pain but they allow babies to suffer by putting them through this.

Answer 2

Probably not, I don't think I could ever do that. And the dad wanting the kid would make it worse on me because he'd be sad that his kid was aborted and I'd feel so guilty because of it.

Answer 3

That is a complicated question that really can't be answered.

Answer 4

"Men accept the consequences of their actions and/or errors, women should as well."

Gaspari, or whatever your name is, that is a silly thing to say.  Have you heard of the serious problem with boyfriends leaving their pregnant girlfriends because they don't want a baby?  If the man has the capability of backing out, then so should the woman.

Answer 5

Yes I probably would have the abortion because I wouldn't want to put my body through the pregnancy.  However, if the father wanted to have the baby that would probably make me feel guilty.  Yet, the costs to me are much greater than to him...so i still think it would be the right decision for me.  I would have an early abortion, hopefully under 9 weeks, if it was over 12 weeks into the pregnancy i would probably be more likely to seriously consider going through with the pregnancy for myself.  Every woman is different though.

Edit: I can't believe someone has the audacity to compare pregnancy to leg surgery!!! Unbelievable.  That's why men shouldn't be involved in deciding whether abortion should be illegal or legal. Sheesh.

Answer 6

I would not have the abortion. Whether or not a father wants to be in the baby's life,I would never abort. The baby has every right to live,father or no father.  

Answer 7

It wouldn't ghappen as I think people should talk to their partners while they are dating about their ideals, to make sure they are compatiable.

But hypothetically, I don't think you should expect anyone to go through the pain and life threatening condition if they don't want to.

If you were going to break up with the woman then you obviously don't love her.  

Answer 8

Patrick: You dont see that as selfish? By the way buddy, its not 9 months of "torture", a normal pregnancy is only incredibly painful at the end.

Other than that its morning sickness and mood swings, plus physical impairment. Hardly torture(beside the mood swings, i had to go through that when i had leg surgery)

Answer 9

Yes. I wouldn't want 9 months of being a preggo.

I agree with Patrick.

Answer 10

Yes, I probably would.  I've had several doctors tell me that I am not built for having children, and it could very well kill me.

Answer 11

I'm not a female, but no, I wouldn't.  You can't bribe people to have the child just because you want one.  A woman's purpose in life is not to please you by letting you be the father at her expense (9 months of torture).  Go find some other woman that WANTS to have the child.  Not someone who you already know does not.

Edit: Nathan Y, pregnancy is nothing like leg surgery.

Answer 12

The only reason I would consider having an abortion would be if my health was in danger, so I would say no because my health is important to me.

However, I think it should the woman's choice, so if the woman decides not to have a child it is morally OK.

Answer 13

this is a great question and if this is how you really feel you are one of the good ones. i have to say if you were willing to stay with me through it all i would just say let's stay together and raise our child if the love is still there. if the love wasn't there i still would have the child and we could share the responsibilities. i wouldn't just give you the baby because i would want to be a part of the child's life. now a question for you, what would you do/say if the woman had the abortion without telling you she was pregnant and then tells you some time after? i figured you would say that lostfan which sounds only fair to me. i also am pro-life and would never abort a child.

Answer 14

I would have made it very clear before I would have ever slept with you that I do not ever want children, and if I do become pregnant, I would most likely abort.  

Answer 15

A woman who consensually engages in coitus must accept the consequences whether the acceptance of transmissible disease or gestation.  If there are extenuating circumstances like the extremely unlikely failure of a properly used OCP (which actually is way over-hyped in the media) then I suppose she is justified in killing the unborn.  Otherwise, the pregancy is a reasonable outcome of irresponsible coitus.  If she is competent enough to engage in coitus, she should accept the consequences.  Men accept the consequences of their actions and/or errors, women should as well.

Feminists should just be marginalized as they are not worthy of discussion.

Answer 16

I guess it would depend on how responsible you really are.

Edit: It's still a very complicated question. And honestly, I have no idea what I would do if I was ever in this situation.

Answer 17

This is a great question. It goes right to the heart of an individuals morality. As a male, I can't answer the question because you intended it for a woman. I can say this is the type of question that separates those who value the integrity of life from those that don't. It separates those with convictions from those with situational beliefs. Great question.  

Answer 18

I can't imagine not wanting my own child, but if I didn't, I would not have an abortion.  I'm sick of the "hellish pregnancy" excuse.  It may not always be a walk in the park, but it's temporary, and if the life of a child depends on it, you can endure a few months of h**l.  

Answer 19

Yes, I would have the abortion. My mother had difficult pregnancies and I take after her physically. Also when I was pregnant before I had bad morning sickness. Not prepared to go through nine months of pain/discomfort + weeks>months recovery time (would probably have to have a c-section) for a kid I don't want. Once they come up with artificial wombs/methods for transferring embryo to surrogate mother, you can have your kid.

If I was more built for pregnancy/childbirth I might consider it if you paid me to be a surrogate. Let's see, minimum wage x 9 months > works out about £35000.

But then I would never have a relationship with a pro-life man anyway.

Answer 20

O.K. Here's the thing. As far as reproductive rights go, the only real concern for the man is "do I want to be a parent?"

That is one consideration a woman faces when she finds herself pregnant. Others include:

"Am I healthy enough to be pregnant?"

"Am I at a stage in my life where a safe pregnancy is feasible?"

"What about prenatal?"

"Am I prepared to accept the risks of pregnancy?"

Pregnancy is not a passive process. Carrying a healthy pregnancy to term involves a great deal of responsibility that in the end belongs to the woman. There cannot be "no responsibility" on her end.

Might I be persuaded to carry my pregnancy to term by your suggestions? Certainly. But I would have other factors to consider besides just wanting the baby.

Answer 21

Say after 4-5 years you would become ill and have to use welfare.   Your contract would not be honored.  They would go after the mother for financial support.  

I am glad we had a guy compare pregnancy to leg surgery.   Sorry nathan but they are not the same.