Sorta akward questions.....puberty?

Question

well i would talk to this to my mom or sister but my mom would make a big deal about it and me and my sister both would feel rly uncomfertable even though were so close

ok so i turned 10 on friday but i i think im having weird signs of puberty like when i go to the bathroom theres a tiny bit of blood-not enough to be my period : ( and im getting some BO not enough to super need deoterant : ( i even noticed im starting to get mood swings. im still flat and it feels rly uncomfertable cuz all my friends are wearing push out bras (talk about their outrageous moms) so im not sure if they r hiding that they r flat? and the wrost part i live in a rly ghetto town and i rly dnt fit in i sorta hate rap. i like rocker skater metal typeand well i guess u could say im confused? plz help!!!!!!!!! im desprate!!!

Answer 1

I'm not really sure what your question is.

Everything you are saying is normal, you are growing up and it is normal.  If you are not comfortable speaking with your mother or sister then how about one of your friends or a teacher/counselor?

Now would be a good time for you to get a training bra.  Why your friends have push up bras is beyond me.  Maybe a friend can help you buy one or I'm sure your mom wouldn't mind.  This is what she is there for. Also, don't dwell on "being flat" you can't make them grown, they grow when they want to.

Also, since you are showing signs of BO you should buy some deodorant.  It's no big deal, just apply a thin layer once a day in the morning.  Dove and Secret are great brands.  

You don't have to like rap.  Liking rock is fine, ghetto town or not.  If you look hard enough I'm sure they're not all into rap.

Answer 2

I started off only having a little blood when I went to the bathroom. It only lasted for a day though. I wasn't sure if something was wrong with me or if I was starting my period. I waited it out another month and then I got my period. Mood swings happen when you're in puberty, and a week before your period (PMS). If you're getting hair in your armpits or pubic hair that's another sign of puberty. It's perfectly normal to spot before you full on start your period.

Don't worry about your other friends and wearing bras..b***s are no fun. They get in the way lol. You're still very young and have a lot of time to develop though so don't worry about it :)

&& who needs to fit in? Our world would be a very boring place if we all fit in. Be who you are :) plenty of people like rock, if we didn't, people wouldn't sing it. Be a fruit loop in a world of cheerios lol.

Answer 3

Don't worry love. It's not so super embarrasing like you think it is... and if your dreading this then you will definantly be dreading when you turn 13 or 14 and ur mum teaches you how to use a tampon! talk about embarrasing lol.

At the age of 10 don't worry about being flat. Its better than having enourmus bewbs. Don't rush it. When I was you're age I was already a 38A.... and quite frankly you wan't the guys talking to your face, hun. Besides...  they like girls with personality more than with b***s.

Don't worry about not fitting in. Its ok. I'm an Emo/Scene/Metal/Rocker/Skater/Punk-ish kid myself lol and I'm here with all the tan popular people. Talk about annoying! as for the B.O. I suggest you start using really good deodorant now because it will get worse when you get older (that part sucks!) As for the mood swings, all girls have mood swings. It's just part of who we are :)

Good luck~<3

Answer 4

I was flat until i was about 13, they usually start after you begin your period so at 10 i reckon they are hiding it. and don't worry about not fitting in, i live in a chav town and like you i like metal etc, there is no point trying to pretend you like what they do cos it will be obvious you don't. just be yourself and people will love you for it

Answer 5

hun dnt worry,

the lil bit of blood will prob be the beginnin of ur period.

at some point fairly soon un will get a bit more and then shud prob start usin pads or wateva u wanna use.

if ur 10 ur fairly early and u will get b***s around wen u get ur period.

and they will grow for ages so if in a few months they aint still v big dnt worry.

and also everyone is different. be u nd skrew wat anyone els thinks!

hav fun growin up!lol its a hoot...

x

Answer 6

Ok so the bleeding is most likely your period. If it's not then you should have it checked out with a doctor..You have to personally decide when you want to start using a deodorant. It's called a push up bra and unless you have something to push up then there is no point in getting one. Basically it differs when girls go through puberty. Some develop very early and some later. Just don't panic about it and let nature run its course...

Answer 7

Calm down gorgeous!

You're getting to an age where you body starts to change, and I think you've already answered your question yourself: yes, you're heading into puberty.

It should be a time for you to celebrate!

I remember being in the exact same place as you, and I found it rather exciting! To think that soon I'd be getting b*****s and wide hips, even the thought of hair-down-there gave me butterflies.

Don't be fooled, it's not something that happens over night; or even over a year! It's a long and painful process. Most adults are still going through it!

Don't be so worried or embarrassed.

After a while it'll just be normal, remember it does happen to everyone.

And I'm sure your mother won't freak out if you told her; I think she'd be just as excited as you should be. She's probably been looking forward to this point in your life for a long time; it's something that mother's love to guide their daughters through. Something for us to guide you through.

Good luck my darling,

And if you have any more questions, you can always e-mail me (by going onto my profile, there's a link); I'd be glad to help.

xx

Answer 8

Okay, first? DON'T FREAK. That's all completely normal. Don't worry about your chest: you'll start budding in a few months. All you'll need is a training bra. Second, the BO will eventually start getting stronger and will be accompanied by hair. Your friends who use push up bras? Yeah, they probably don't know but using a bra like when you're still pretty young is bad for the skin on your chest and can in fact decrease growth significantly - in other words, it can your b***s from growing any faster. It's okay not to like rap. Heck, I don't and I grew up in a pretty ghetto place, too. People at school like to call me a rocker, or emo, or scene. Don't let your friends or school get to you; you'll start liking and doing things on your own.

If you ever need to ask something else that you might be uncomfortable asking anyone else, feel free to just ask me. I know personally what it's like to be around girls with bras and that listen to rap. Now everyone everyone I know who was like that ask how I ever got through life listening to rock and still grew in my chest faster than them. :)