Sould we split up or stay together??

Question

Me and my partner have been toghether for 8 yrs we have a 4year old son. My patner works partime hours at the moment and so do i he has a good paid job ect. recentley he has started going to the bym and playing darts that im not bothered about as we all need our own space but i kinda feel that now he is shaping up he aint got any time for me or our 4 year old son like the gym comes first i mean he goes in the day so it stops us from having a day out together. When i suggested that i wanted to go out one paticualr night he said i couldnt as it was one of his night whaen he goes out i just felt like ****. Now he has stopped helping round the house and just sits there watching tv while im sweating my **** off cleaning our home then our son is naughty because he is sick of waiting to go out and is bored to tears. i carnt remember the last time he put our son to bed plz can any body off any advice is it me being jelous or being taking for a fool. I feel that me and my son are in the way.

Answer 1

for sure that is the best way to go

Answer 2

he goes to the gym to much and wont clean up around the house if these are his greatest faults then i would be grateful, he could be cheating on you beating you drinking or a druggie maybe you just need to put things into perspective.And have you asked him to help around the house or to spend more time with you and the kids? sit him down and talk to him  mind you i said to him and not at him.good luck

Answer 3

stay together forever

Answer 4

I think you need to sit him down and ask what is going on.  I would also suggest that you go to the gym togethre while your son is as tschool or nursery.

Answer 5

listen to your heart (:

you know whats best for you; i am just a person on the computer.

Answer 6

If you are really unhappy and there is no way you can or want to sort things out then separate for a while and then decide by how you feel after the separation and you have talked things through truthfully. If you feel there is no hope then split now and let the healing start for both of you. The decision is yours but it sounds like your partner is bored with your relationship and he wont know what he has lost till he looses it but don't make idle threats if you say you are going to leave then do it just make sure you have some where to go and the financial arrangements made before you go by that I mean benefit money.

Answer 7

if you have to ask this question then you should definately split up.

Answer 8

my opinion you should have have dump him the first time he cheated as far as this issue sounds like he's possibly cheating again. if your description of going out is going out to a barroom alone or with other Friends the relationship will never last. in my past experiences going out alone never works. find out what he's up to

Answer 9

Yes.

Answer 10

welcome to the real world of men they all do these things ...as long as he don't hit you when he comes back drunk..or abuse the child...come back silly hours..have a fling ..keep you short of money so he can have more to spend on drink..i would stay for the sons sake ..

Answer 11

Only the two of you can decide that.