Spicing things up in the bedroom......?

Question

I had a baby 3 months ago. She is finally sleeping through the night so my fiance and I have more alone time. It seems that we are always doing the same old thing though.... any ideas on how i can spice things up? i don't want to hurt his feelings and make him think he isn't pleasing me but i just want some suggestions for something different we can do

Answer 1

Tom has the right idea.

You need to talk about it. Tell him first off that you are not displeased, assuming that you are not. But tell you that it sometimes feels a little stale. And ask how he feels about it. Then if he at least somewhat agrees you can suggest perhaps spicing things up. Talk about that.

If you choose to look for toys and so on, shop together. Go to the s*x toy store, or browse on-line. Sometimes just looking for this stuff together can be enough to get the juices flowing.

If this is the person you are prepared to share your most intimate desires with you should be able to freely discuss them. You should be able to make requests of each other. And discuss fine details about specific acts that you like or dislike. Give each other pointers.

Take turns sometimes. It's silly to believe that you will both be completely satisfied every time. Treat him, let him relax, you do what he likes. Start with a back rub, then move on to the good stuff. Then next time, it's your turn.

Congrats. And good luck.

Answer 2

Do YOU want to spice things up OR are you wanting him to?

First, remember, MEN AREN'T MIND READERS, so if YOU think things need "spicing up" then be upfront with him. If he loves you, then he'll hear you out and give you what you say you need.

But, wait, there's more!  BE WILLING AND READY to reciprocate, that is to keep an open mind and be willing to fullfil the pleasures of his heart as well. And the best way to know what those are is to just OUTRIGHT ASK HIM. Say, honey (or what ever the h**l you call him) if there is "ANYTHING" I can do for you sexually, what would that be?

And be ready to take one for the team, baby!

Now from a MAN'S PERSPECTIVE that's spicing things up!

Answer 3

get drunk and play truth or dare

Answer 4

congratulations.  you've figured out this thing early in life.  read the book to h**l with h**l on  line at barnes and noble and amazon dot com.  a friend of mine gave me her copy and i read it.  it deals a whole lot with the sexual relationships that should be kept alive and well.  you will regret it if you don't get it.  good luck and hurry.

Answer 5

Role play, oral, anal, toys, p**n, light bondage, dirty talk, 3 way.

Some of those are pretty tame, and others might be too much, but hopefully they give you an idea.

Good luck, and congrats on your new baby.

Answer 6

I think you need to think what you consider "spicing it up" to mean and how far are you willing to go. If you ask him, you better be prepared to answer his honestly too and don't be offended by anything he might say or ask....good luck

Answer 7

Welcome to the club we women have been pretending for years all because we don't want to hurt their feelings or bruise their delicate egos. Most men don't know how to please a woman or don't care.

You see what i mean just talking about how men don't satisfy women they get an attitude so how can we be honest and tell them they don't do it right. It funny how every man things he is the best lover there is.