Spoiled kid? How can it change?

Question

My brother is really smart, but he is being very lazy, spoiled, and disobedient to our parents. He has this way of arguing in which no logic is used and you get so annoyed that you end up going crazy. He is taking four APs this year in highschool, and he can do it, he just doesnt try to study. He makes excuses like he gets itchy and nervous when he works, but I dont believe that is called anything else but being lazy. How can I turn this around??

Answer 1

You are his brother. It is right for you to be concerned.

But you are NOT his parent.

If you are not his "guardian" either, then let him and them work it out.

OR if you think it would work, and you are enough older than him, maybe take your belt to his butt ... just be sure it won't get you into any trouble and that it would help him.

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Answer 2

as the previous answer said is it really your place to deal with this ...

however in responce to the question you could maybe try some program that can show what it is like if they dont get good grades at school and what life will be like when you just mess about and end up living a life of possible crime etc.

i would in the least suggest you raise a hand to you brother as this is wrong and does not help anyone.

maybe he does get nervous and itchy i know i used to when studying and worreid about exams and stuff stress  can show in many ways. he feel like he has to be good or seen as a failure he should be encouraged to do his best and if that means not having the top grade then that should be it ....

i know i always tell my kids as long as you have tried your best that is all that matters.

i hope you have a little bit of an idea what it might be like for him and what would you do if you were in his shoes.