Spoiled or Just Anger Management? [[2 questions inside]]?

Question

{1st question} Okay... So I think I have Anger Management. I get really upset and mad over the tiniest things. I am also spoiled so that might have somehing to do with it... but yeah. Like if i cant find something i get REALLY mad and start freaking out. and if i want something and my mom wont get it for me i start yelling and geting mad. Whats wrong with me? Do i have anger management? do i have to take pills for it? WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?!!

{2nd question} Whenever I'm really upset I think of all the things i regret. and then i start crying and then i think of my mom and dad. and then i think of all the stuff they do for me and me not appreciating it. and i just start FREAKING. like one time. i was mad at my mom. and last b-day she got me some athletic type shoes. and i never got around to wearing them. so i was thinking of that. and i starting crying and i began to hate myself for stupid things. seriously, what is wrong with me!!!!??? i need a cure. any sugestions? do i need to see a doctor or what?

Answer 1

It is rather hard to tell if this is just anger issues, being spoiled, or maybe even a mental illness.

I say mental illness because I too act this way, and I am not spoiled, actually far from it. I am bipolar and when I am manic, i start acting like this too, get angry at everything and everyone, not just my parents, and not just when I don't get something, I get angry at the way people treat me. Sometimes its true, sometimes its a delusional belief I'm being persecuted by everyone, so i have to retaliate. Most of the times I can't control this.

When I am depressed, none of these things occur.

So are you having any other symptoms of any mental illnesses such as bipolar disorder or ODD? If not, then you do have anger issues, and instead of just "growing up", i think you should talk to at least a therapist who will help you deal with this.

Answer 2

i think you need to grow up

Answer 3

Let's see...

Well for Number 1. Yes, you're spoiled, but that happens to some people here and there. There are no pills to cure spoiled.

For Number 2. (Which this is the ironic part....)

You're basically having resentment for the being spoiled part.

I think it's interesting for someone to be spoiled and then regret it, that's kind of like when I beat the desk when I get killed in a video game and then afterwords get angry at the fact that I did that.

There's nothing wrong with you, you just have to break out of the spoiled shell and appreciate more. You don't have to wear the shoes to show you appreciate what they did, just make sure you show them that you're grateful for the important things, like a roof over your head and the love and care they give / etc.

Answer 4

Well you want the real TRUTH as to what I believe is your PROBLEM??? Its got nuttin to do with rather or not you take medication for the problem.. It appears to me that you don't have any respect for yourself, let alone the ones that are around you.. And that you need to learn to be greatful for the people that you have in your life, instead of throwing a baby fit everytime you don't get your way.. And your parents aren't always going to be there for you so I'd suggest RESPECT!!!!

Answer 5

sounds like what you needs is to take a big handfull of 'kick up the ***' pills

Answer 6

Chelsea -  The fact that you regret and that you are remorseful for your actions, indicate to me that you are really not in charge of your actions.  The fact that you are not controlling your actions indicate a mental illness.  Sure you get everything you want and you may, in fact, be spoiled but who is to say that you are a spoiled brat.  Spoiled brats do no regret their actions.  They just want more and more and they dont care what consequences there are to getting more.  Do you understand?  I dont think that is you.

You indicate the fact that you are depressed.   That coupled with anger issues indicate to me that you may be suffering from depression or you could possibly be bipolar.  I am NOT a doctor but my suggestion to you would be for you to see a doctor and tell him exactly what you told us in this forum and let him tell you where to go from there.

You sound like a nice person.  I wish you the very best that life can offer you.