Spoilt. Would you make your own way in life even if you didn't have to?

Question

To cut a long story short my folks are leaving the UK to live in another country (KSA). They are taking my little bro with them but I have decided to stay here and live independently (I'm 18 and British). I am going to visit them over there and then make up my mind if that country is for me (it is such a different lifestyle over there and I want to be sure). Our family home is huge and so is going on the market and my dad has said he will buy me an apartment here in the UK. I do have the option of living with grandparents (although they are annoying). My family is very wealthy but I am not spoilt and my folks work hard for their money. Do I accept that my dad is BUYING me a house. I had planned my life so that I would eventually personnaly work towards getting one myself. Some of my friends look down their nose as they are not as fortunate as me. What do I do. If my dad buys me a house surely I am not experiencing what it is like to pave my own way and get a mortgage as other people do. So fed up, please no nasty answers.

Answer 1

Well are you ready to get a job ? May want to talk to dad about helping to pay the rent for an apartment instead.  

Answer 2

I'm not wealthy by any means, but I believe in supporting my daughter as much as I can. I'm paying for her college right now even though I have to borrow money to do it.  It gives her a head start in life.  The more I do for her, the easier it will be for her later in her life.  I had it rough. My parents were both dead by the time I was 22. I wish I'd had someone to help me when things got rough.

As long as there are no obligations or strings, I wouldn't think twice about living in a house my parents bought for me. The one thing I would do is when I sell it, I'd refund the purchase price to them.

Answer 3

Accept the apartment - the help stops later on trust me.  You will need the apartment to do better in life and there is nothing wrong with that!  I have my house my grandfather bought for me, tiny but sufficient, and I don't know what I would have done without it.  That's all I ever got even after he passed away as the rest of the family dove in like vultures to get what he had.  Sad.  But the house has kept me out of debt and I've always had a place to live.  He wouldn't offered it if he didn't want to give it - let him do something good for you.  And ignore what the others say!  If they could get it - they would take it and many times over.

Answer 4

I dont think its unreasonable to accept your family's help

What would be bad is if you accepted their help and did not get a job and did not save money. Now youll be able to save a lot of money for when you don't need your parents help. By American standards, a parent helping a high school graduate, college student, or college graduate out with an apartment does not make them spoiled.

I also know what its like to have friends who are struggling financially and hate that you are not. Just be careful what you say around people who might be jealous.

Answer 5

let your dad help you , but get a job and work to make your own money save what your friends have to pay for their homes and put it toward your retirement or school , do not waste a lot of money , you caught a nice break in life , don't s***w it up ... did you see on oprah the other day , they gave a homeless man 100 000 dollars and in 6 months he was homeless again , the decisions you make are serious and important ... good luck  

Answer 6

im only 14 but mum and dad have already decided they are buying me a house.and i can live in it or sell it for money. :)

so yeah.who cares.i like being spoilt i would rather that then my parents like not buy me anything.that would suck.

xx

Answer 7

LOOK THANK GOD YOUR MOM N DAD CAN BUY YOU A HOME BUT MOST OF ALL THYE LOVE YOU SO MUCH THEY WANT TO,,DONT LET YOUR FRIENDS MAKE YOU FEEL BAD,,I NO I FTHERE MOM OR DADS COULD DO THE SAME FO R THEM THEY WOULD JUMP,,,AND JUST THINK OF ALL THE OTHER THINGS YOU COULD PAVE YOUR WAY TO LIKE MAYB MAKING THE HOUSE BETTER AS N A SWIMMING POOL A JAKUZZIE(CANT SPELL)BUT JUS TEVEN MAYB HELPINNG SOME POOR GUY WHO HAS NOTHING,,PEACE

Answer 8

politely and in a good way ..tell your father.."Thank you Daddy..but I am

gonna work things out on my own and by myself...and I Love you ".

he should get the message....good luck!!

Answer 9

If it were me, I would take advantage of the situation you are in.  Not everyone is so fortunate.  I think you should take him up on his offer, however, also educate yourself and be ABLE to take care of yourself should something tragic happen where your familly somehow loses their money and you are forced to support yourself totally.  You will also feel much better about yourself this way and feel more independent.  Find out what you are good at and what you enjoy, whether it be the health field, business, law, or whatever else you are interested in.  It would also be beneficial if you did some volunteer work or since you dont have to pay a mortgage, you could work and spend that money on people who are less fortunate (sometimes, not all of your money of course).  There are a million things you could do that will benefit not only yourself, but others as well.  You didnt choose who your parents are and you should just be grateful and not feel guilty.  

Answer 10

ur mulling situaton....

i would accept consider it an investment afterall u will be paying for utilities expenses or is everything inclusive

s long as it is yours in name u will have responsisbity and if your family can afford and want to help accept graciously

if you choose to wing it on your own good character can be yours..

self made

still if you choose not to give ur family peace of mind by acceptin offer see if they will provide a trust u can fall back on ok so you would have a cushion...economy fluntuates and some would be thrilled at the prospect.no matter what you will be taking on responsibility...do what you can handle...