Spouse bullying child

Question

What do you consider the difference between bullying and disciplining the child? What is a good way to help the spouse see that they are bullying rather than disciplining?

Answer 1

Tape them or record their voice and then play it back to them. Sometimes we do not understand how our behavior appears to others until we see or hear it played back. It can be a real eye-opener.

Answer 2

When my wife moo moo lovins smothers our kids, it's bullying.  

Answer 3

Take the spouse aside and speak to them as they speak to the child and ask them how they like it. Bullying is just plain mean. Shame on them.

Answer 4

well it depends on the situation. if the child does something bad then you need to discipline the child.  if the parent is just insulting them for no fault of the child, that is bullying.  at times the parent can be a little harsh to the child so that the child learns to be tougher like if the parent wants the kid to lose weight or have better grades.  if the parent is purposely making the child cry or be hurt and the parent doesnt realize that, videotape/record the conversations they have and play it back later.  see how they behave.  if they don't realize it try to have an outside person come maybe live in the house for a few days and ask them to notice the behavior, etc.  you might even have to talk to a therapist.  if the spouse is bullying the child, keep the child far from him/her

Answer 5

If there is more than one child in the house, and one is getting stricter rules, then I would say that is bullying.  I think the best way to point it out to him would be a night out together and talk it over a relaxing dinner by yourselves with no children.

Answer 6

You need to give us examples of what is going on. If she is screaming at the child or threatening them, then you need to step in and do something. If the child is being bratty and she is at the end of her rope you need to step in also and help in the discipline and not just stand by. Discipline needs to be shared by both parents so the child knows that they can't get away with that behavior. My son knows that if I tell him no to something that he had better not ask my husband or he will be in trouble.

Answer 7

Is it her Baby Anyhow Just explain

Answer 8

Tell your spouse that what he/she is doing could be seen as emotional abuse, or if violence is involved then it would physical and emotional abuse. Maybe then they will get the picture.

Answer 9

Please elaborate on what your considering bullying.

Answer 10

ask the spouse how they would feel if someone talked to them the way they are talking to the child...

Answer 11

If you feel like the behavior borders on immature then there may be a bullying issue.  If they are taunting the child or making them feel bad, like self esteem bad then that's not okay.  I always try to keep a level head with my kids.  There is a fine line between teaching them a lesson and yelling for your own person issues.  The best way to teach the parent that it's happening is by letting them see it happen.  Tone is everything when dealing with kids and sometimes you don't realize that you sound like a psycho when you really do.  Just tell her, they are your kids mammal!!

Answer 12

Positive discipline promotes self-worth.

Is the person disciplining in a way that hurts or helps this child's self-esteem? Will this person's discipline help the child develop self-control?

Criticizing, discouraging, creating obstacles and barriers, blaming, shaming, using sarcastic or cruel humor, or using physical punishment are some negative disciplinary methods used with young children. Often saying, "Stop that!" "Don't do it that way!" or "You never..." is harmful to children's self-esteem. Such discipline techniques as removal from the group, or isolation in a time-out chair or a corner, may have negative consequences for the child.

Any adult might occasionally do any of these things. Doing any or all of them more than once in a while means that a negative approach to discipline has become a habit and urgently needs to be altered before the child experiences low self-esteem as a permanent part of her personality.

Good Approaches To Discipline:

increase a child's self-esteem,

allow her to feel valued,

encourage her to feel cooperative,

enable her to learn gradually the many skills involved in taking some responsibility for what happens to her,

motivate her to change her strategy rather than to blame others,

help her to take initiative, relate successfully to others, and solve problems.

Kudos to YOU for being involved and taking a pro-active stance on this child's behalf. Do not ever give up on doing that.

Best of luck!

Answer 13

Disciplining is when you teach a child that behavior is wrong by taking away privilages or showing that there are consequences for behavior. Bullying is when you do soemthing the child doesn't like just because you can to show you have more power than the child. For example, if a child doesn't do thier homewoerk, they are told they will not be able to hang out with friends until they are finsihed. Bullying is, for example, calling a child a name they don't like when it is clear the child doesn't like it or trying to trip them "just for fun".

Answer 14

If the punishment is reasonable then it is not bullying.

If your child gets grounded for two weeks for not brushing their teeth one night that bullying

Try to like show her how unreasonable he/she is in punishing your child