Stalker slandering and harassing me, what can I do?

Question

A former lover went through my emails and and phone messages, and now she is slandering me to my friends and sending nasty messages to people using things I said to her against me. Have you ever been in a situation like this? What did you do? I don't want to have to go to the prosecutor if I can help it, my friends are very embarrassed by this.

Answer 1

tell her 2 STOP!!and that you dont want to be with her! and you should rpob contact the police if its gets out of hand!

Answer 2

send your sis to kick her butt

Answer 3

plain and simple: get a restraining order asap. my ex-husband wouldn't leave me alone and as soon as he was served with a restraining order, everything stopped completely. good luck

Answer 4

She's banking on your not going to law to avoid being embarrassed.  Take out a restraining order immediately.  As for the unlucky recipients of her venomous propaganda, let it ride.  You'll have the upper hand by ignoring it and refusing to defend yourself.  It will go away eventually.  Above all, DO NOT respond in any way to any attempts she makes to communicate with you.  Block her on your email and cell phone, etc.

Be more careful next time you choose a lover.  Some are truly insane.

Answer 5

I like the sis answer, that certainly works.

I would personally suggest this course of action (yes, this exact situation happened to me): have a friend call her, one she doesn't know, claiming to be a legal counsel for you (don't say lawyer) asking her to cease and desist or else you will obtain and order of protection.

An order of protection is called a "restraining order" on TV and in movies, but in real life the term is "order of protection."

If she is not completely insane, thinking a lawyer is involved should stop it. But if that doesn't do it, contact the police.

Most often they will not issue an order of protection unless you fear bodily harm, so talk to them about filing a charge of harassment.

Police hate paperwork like everyone else, so they will call her and ask her to stop. Only if she continues after that will they go ahead and charge her, and they'll tell you this up front.

Think of it this way; after she talks to what she thinks is a lawyer AND the police, if she continues, she is batsh*t insane and you should worry about bodily harm.

Good luck buddy, the crazy ones are never fun.

Answer 6

To prevent her from doing this again, change your Email address and put password protection on your computer (and phone if possible) so that only you can access it.

Tell your friends to ignore your ex-lover's vitriol.  If they are your true friends, they should understand that bad feelings happen all around when lovers break up, and that your ex is just venting her frustrations on anyone who is willing to listen.  In the meantime, try not to say anything about your ex that she might be able to use against you.  She can't attack if you give her no ammunition.

If she continues this behavior you might consider a restraining order.