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Alright, first things first, I'm 24 and the young lady we'll call her "Kelly" I've met is 22. No real age issue. We both work for the same company, I travel quite often from location to location. My home office and her home office are two different places, and we live about 30-45 minutes from one another. This all started a few days ago when I was at her office helping out one of their departments because they were short handed, one woman out on medical and another guy was on vacation, but anyway every single time I walked out of where I was working, she would stare at me, and I mean EVERY time. I didn't think much of it, I just figured I was a new face at this office, everyone is always curious. So later that night, some of the staff invited me out to dinner. Of course I was more then happy to go, anything is better then sitting in my hotel room eating fast food by myself. "Kelly" didn't go she was working late. But the group I was with told me that "Kelly" had been checking me out all day, but she didn't want to get involved because she figured I lived much further away then I actually do. But they told me everyone noticed her staring at me, and I was all she could talk about. I was pretty flattered, but I too though she lived too far away so I decided not to take it any further. The next day, I chatted her up a little bit and we figured out we live closer to one another then we both though, and when I said that we both lived in the same state she said a shocked and slightly happy "Really?!?". Anyway, at the end of my day, I gave her a call on her company wireless phone and asked her to come over to the office I was working in. She stopped by and I gave her my number, and she gave me hers. Now I kind of got a laugh out of what happened next...she walked over to her friends across the hall, and I could hear the high pitch giggling of women, no offence to any women, but come on you know you do it. I peeked out of my office door and watched her look back at her friends as she walked down the hall and she did a double arm pump (the Tiger Woods thing but with both arms). So I sat back down and started to laugh a little bit. I decided I'd give her a call Tuesday, this all occurred on a Friday and it was a Holiday Weekend and I figured she had plans and I didn't want to bother her right after I got her number. I get home unpack and I'm just getting ready to curl up in bed and I get a text message from "Kelly" saying "Hope you made it home okay, and I just wanted to say hey". This was a little shocking to me. I've dated plenty of women, and I'm very use to the usual date plan. Get the number, call a few days later and set up a date, meet for the date, call a few days later, another date, blah blah. This had really thrown me a curve ball, and I find myself kind of out of my dating comfort zone. We've been texting back and forth kind of flirting and have some light conversations, but I never normally talk to a woman before a date. I also feel like I say some stupid things in text messages and I don't want to sent the wrong message to her. I'm pretty sure she's interested given her actions. I guess I'm thinking too much, I really just want to play it cool in a situaiton I've never been in before. Any adivce? And sorry for the long store, but I like detail.

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  1. *rubs eyes*

    Uh, ok. You are right.....you are thinking too much. Not every dating situation starts off &#039;textbook&#039;. I dont see how her texting you saying she hoped you made it home ok can be so shocking. I would have done the same thing. Shes interested, there deosnt seem to be much question about that. Stop analyzing the h**l out of everything! :)  If you are enjoying whats going on...just enjoy it!  


  2. yes that was very long, and i gave up around the middle of the story.

    Dont ever date anyone you work with.

    it just doesnt work out alot, awkwardness and everything.

    But if you really dont care about mixing business with pleasure, ask her out on a date, but make sure she doesnt mind dating someone from her job as well. id wait and see if she really does like you, it may jus be a crush. but if you like her, and assumes she likes you, go for it.

  3. She texted you because she&#039;s a caring person. There&#039;s definitely not an outline to how dating should go. The experience is always different with each person.

    If you like talking to her, then keep doing it. Don&#039;t worry about saying something that might sound off because then you&#039;ll psych yourself out. And if she wasn&#039;t enjoying talking to you, she would have stopped. Just have fun and enjoy it, be yourself and nothing can really go wrong.

    And as far talking before dates goes... Think of it this way. There&#039;s less chance of an awkward silence if you talk before dates. You have your inside jokes and you&#039;ve connected on common interests already. Plus, each thing you talk about will inevitably lead to something else so you&#039;ll have an endless supply of conversation topics.

    Best of luck :)

  4. yea texting sucks, keep it kind of short so you don&#039;t send a wrong message, cause it&#039;s easy to do there is no emotion when texting.

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