Starting uni with my boyfriend and his friend...!?

Question

My long-term boyfriend and I will be starting the same course at university in September (note this is not the problem...lol).

His friend of years will also be starting, he is a nice guy but he is very clingy he calls my boyfriend about 2-3 times a day and always wants to hang-out with him, (he even suggest we all get a student house together!!! Please!!) ,they smoke pot together and are generally very immature around each other.

In other words I don’t think they bring out the best in each other.

I worried they will encourage each other to smoke in between classes, and generally play the fool.

(they did the same in college…and both dropped out)

Also, its mean but I know he will be the 3rd wheel, and is always gonna be around us, even my boyfriends aware of how clingy he can be….

Can I do anything to help the situation or not…because im really worried how it will all work out.

Answer 1

I think ;your problem here is that you will be the third wheel.  After all, this "friend" has dragged your bf down before.  Are you sure that the friend isn't g*y, and trying to get your bf?  

Answer 2

The most important thing you can do is to concentrate on YOUR studies..not worry about what your boyfriend is up to between classes. If he chooses to get stoned that is his choice...you say the friend is cligy...but honestly, you come off as a bit clingy too...expecting him to be the third wheel...he may feel that way about you. Go to Uni as an individual NOT as part of a couple....make new friends and dont live with your boyfriend....

Answer 3

I wouldn't worry about it - you'll all make lots of new friends at uni and develop your own individual social lives. If he wants to live with his friend and smoke dope and act the fool, let them go ahead, but I think you should live on your own or with new uni friends. You'll probably outgrow the pair of them, but if you don't, then you can still see him/them as and when you want to. Develop your own life and friends - that's what going away to uni is for. Don't let your existing ties hold you down.  

Answer 4

I think you are worrying too much... one idea I have is maybe if he had a girlfriend of his own.. it wouldnt be this way... hook him up with someone!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

ask your boyfriend's friend to get a girl

or matchmake.

Answer 6

He'll meet new mates in Uni...so will you, and your bf...No way will it remain the 3 of you for too long!

Answer 7

Meet some girls when you start school and bring them out with you 3.  Eventually he'll connect with SOMEONE and be outof your hair.