Statergies to overcome domestic violence?

Question

I was in a relationship with my daughters father he was mentally abusing and controlling me every day. I was pregnant with my second daughter when he started being physically abusive toward me. At that point i had no self esteem i was not alowed to work couldnt even visit my family. One night he tried to hit my daughter as she yelled at him not to hurt her mummy. That was the last straw we left. I have since got an AVO so he cannot contact us. My question is i feel like im in a hole and dont know where to start to piece my life back together. ( i have my daughter in counceling and my baby was born healthy) AM i doing the wrong thing by not letting My baby meet her father?

Answer 1

he lost the right to be a father when he became abusive

you did the right thing :)

Answer 2

U R A VERY SMART  LADY. N U N URE DAUGHTE R  ALIVE TO TELL YOUR STORY,,B GRATEFULL FOR THAT ,MY DAUGHTER WAS  21 AND A BEAUTIFULL  BABY GIRL HER EX STABBED THEM BOTH TO DEATH AND TRIED TO ESCAPE TO CANADA ,NOW HIS IN PRISON FOR THE RESST O FHIS SORRY LIFE,,HANG IN THERE GOD WILL SEE THAT GOOD THINGS START HAPPENING TO YOU,,AND WEN YOU THINK ABOUT LETING HIM SEE HIS DAUGHTERS,JUST REMEMBER IF HE GETS ANY KIND OF CUSTODY HE WILL BEAT ON  THEM I WOULD KEEP HIM AWAY AS MUCH AS U CAN,,PEACE

Answer 3

I do not feel you have done the wrong thing.  Many abusive men will scream about their rights to be fathers (as if children were property), but if they were decent fathers, they would never have abused the chidlren's mothers.  Stand by your guns, believe in yoruself, and raise those precious children to be responsible adults.  Don't believe in his empty lies and dead promises to change.  He never will.

Answer 4

honestly i think you are doing the right thing completely you dont want someone who could hit either you or his and your daughter you dont need people like that in your life, stay as far away from him as possible. and dont contact him, keep talking to people about what happened to you and one day you will be able to accept it and you will realise it made you a stonger better person.

Answer 5

No you are not doing the wrong thing.All you are doing is protecting your child from a violent and abusive guy.When your child gets older and ask you questions about her father then she will understand the choices you made were for her safety and well being for you all.Take care and move forward.