Stay at home moms with young babies please read my question!??

Question

ok my son is 2 months old. he is so time consuming! How in the world can I keep my house really tidy and clean when I barely have any time? I do things while he is sleeping but I still cant get very much done. Do the daddy's help? what is your rutine? How do you do it??

Answer 1

My husband has no house keeping skills at all and my boys required lots of looking after.  I hired a house cleaner for  3 or 4 hours a week, I had my husband drop laundry at the wash and fold service at laundromat.  I had him pick up Boston Market dinner once or twice a week.

Answer 2

i am having the same adjustments,i have a 2 1/2 yr.old and a 4week old..and all im doing is feeding one and entertaining the other. when my 2 1/2yr.old goes down i try to sleep too since im up a few times at night with the new one. the day goes by so fast that do the bare minimums like the dishes, if you can vacuum, throw in wash. but I have decided to do deep cleaning on the weekend for now when my husband is home..but i'll take some suggestions as well, as far as the sling it does work but right now my baby still sleeps alot so thats nice, it's really my 2 1/2 yr. old i have to worry about always keeping an eye on her and entertaining her..Hopefully this can help a little. I haven't found my routine yet either..and no hubby is not home during the day to help and when he gets home i don't expect him to hardly do anything, just bathe and entertain my 2 1/2yr. old while i can breathe..

Answer 3

I just do what I can and leave what I cant for another day. If he's happy when awake I take advantage of that time too and put him i his swing or pack and play for a bit.  

Answer 4

I have 2 children ages 3  years and 5 months. I clean when they are awake. The 3 year old helps me and the 5 month old watches. My house is not as clean as it used to be, but i ask myself "would i rather have a clean house or spend time with my kids?"

Do what you can when he is asleep.

My hubby does not help with anything in the house.

I have set days that i have stuff to do. Monday and thurs is vacuum days. Thurs or friday is sheet day. EVERYDAY is laundry day. Wed is garbage day. Eventually it all gets done. I am usually continuously cleaning!

Best of luck! Spend time with the little one but remember he needs to learn to play on his own too!  

Answer 5

When my daughter was real young I would strap her in a bouncy seat while I cleaned the house, this usually took about an hour.  You can also get things done while the baby is sleeping.  And don't think that your house has to be immaculate.  Do the best you can and if anyone judges you for things not being "tidy" they really ought to be a lil more understanding.

My husband helped as much as he could, he mainly did the dishes for me.

Answer 6

Use a sling or similar - carry baby about while you do chores.  Remember though - what is important is baby...  the house will still be messy tomorrow, or the next day for you to tidy, and it wont last forever...

Good luck.

Answer 7

I had twins and I just have really relaxed my standards.

The babies are more important.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Great great advice from these moms.  You do what you can and ask for help if you need it.  Prioritize your chore list and what doesn't get done will be waiting for you when you find the time.  Whoever walks into your place and cringes at less than perfect has never had a newborn.  Trust us, it will get better as he gets older.  Don't stress the small stuff and enjoy him.  Before you know it he won't be a baby anymore.

Answer 9

In my experience, no, the Daddies don't help at all.  The housework will always be there. Your kids are only babies once. Hold them as much as you can, for as long as you can. They grow up too fast, and which would you rather look back on, "I had a spotless house", or "my kids were held, loved and had loads of attention showered on them"?

You really just have to let your housekeeping standards slide a bit....

Answer 10

Haha I don't.

I was almost doing ok for awhile now my 7 month old has separation anxiety.

Answer 11

i went through the same dilemma topped with ppd....well at 2 mnths its still quite difficult to manage all baby,clean,cook,you!!! eventually it will get better after 3 months, put him in a harness and pick up like that, put him in his vibrating bouncer/seat put iy near the kitchen bathroom etc. at eye sight and do wht u have to do....get fam, friends to take care of ur son so u can handle bizz.....and every so often get ur baby daddy to pull his weight on his days off.....hope this helps...good luck you'll manage sooner or later

Answer 12

My husband dislikes messy house, so when my son (who is 21month now) was at that age I carried him with me in a carriage that support his neck.  I used sling if he's asleep.  I think it's better to rest when he's asleep so you can gain energy to do other stuffs later on.  Other than that, you can do few things in the same time.  For example, while waiting for water to boil, you can wipe the counter or tidy up the kitchen.  Also, you can do some stuffs in alternate day e.g. dusting, vacuuming, cleaning the bathroom.  Well, that's how I do it.  

Answer 13

Get a sling.  It is the best thing you can do.  Go to www.thebabywearer.com and you can find out how to make a simple one from a bedsheet.

The most important thing right now should be your son.  Not your house.  Dustbunnies can wait.  You need to re-evaluate your definition of 'really tidy and clean'.  Try www.flylady.net for some routine suggestions.  Dhe has great ideas and routines.  Using a timer for 15 minutes at a time, one house 'zone' per week, certain chores on certain days.

My husband has barely ever helped with newborns or the house.  I do what I can when they sleep, or just wear them and involve them---even a 2 month old.  Baby first, mom second, other kids third, husband fourth, house fifth.

Answer 14

Unfortunately you just have to keep doing what you are doing. I clean when she is sleeping or when she is awake I put her on the floor on a mat with some toys and she would play so I could clean. The daddy does help but only after they get home. But I didn't expect my husband to do too much as he had worked all day. But it gets better the older they get cause they can keep themselves busy. Good Luck.

Answer 15

Will he let you wear him?  I would highly suggest getting an adjustable ring sling, a maya wrap, or Mei Tai.  That way you can carry him while you do things like washing dishes and folding laundry.  The more physical things like scrubbing floors and such can get done when he is sleeping

As a single mom who also fosters newborns and infants, I have found baby wearing to be the best way to go!

Answer 16

Lower your standards. My house was a mess for several months after  my baby was born. She's 7 months now and it's still not as clean as I'd like it to be but it's better. I pull the palypen into to kitchen, stock it with toys and she's good for about a half hour. When she gets bored we move on to the Baby Einstein. Just gotta keep her occupied. My husband complains that I'm home all day and the house should be spotless, I just have to laugh at him otherwise I might have to kill him. He only gets away with comments like that since he works 58 hours a week.  

Answer 17

Sometimes you just have to let things go!  Tidy up when the little one is sleeping.  Don't stress too much!  If you need dad's help, let him know!  Maybe he can take baby for a few hours in the evening if you need to catch up on things!  Once you get a routine down, the baby's routine will change!!!!  

Answer 18

My daughter is now 3 yrs old  but when she was a baby I was alone with the baby and all the household chores. My husband didnt help but there are some daddys that do. I did it after she was down for night or getting ready to be put down because daddy did the last feeding before he went to bed and put her to bed!