Stay at home parents….?

Question

I know this might get a rise out of people but I have to ask because I’m curious….

Lots of women stay at home with their children. Lots of women have to work for their children. Some men stay at home with the kids while the wife works and while it’s sort of unheard of, those men are out there.

So is there a difference between a man and a woman staying home?

Now what if that man has a child from a previous relationship? He has a child support payment to make but his JOB is to stay at home with the kids. He’s then viewed as a deadbeat whereas before the extended details were shared, most would say there is no difference.

Do you think this is true? Do you think it’s a double standard?

Just curious of your opinions….

Answer 1

Men and women are not the same.

No matter how many feminists tell you they are.

Women have a v****a, men don't.

Men with children from previous relationships shouldn't be having more children with other women. That's my opinion.

Answer 2

Well, in that case the woman working in the family should be paying her husband's child support, since that is how they make things work. It is their choice to have him stay home and her work. There isn't any difference in a woman staying home or a man staying home. Both have to take care of the home and children.

Answer 3

I get where you are going with this one.  Very interesting.  

I do think it's a double standard....

Answer 4

"Now what if that man has a child from a previous relationship? He has a child support payment to make but his JOB is to stay at home with the kids. He’s then viewed as a deadbeat whereas before the extended details were shared, most would say there is no difference."

What kids is he taking care of? children with another woman?then he is remarried or living with the new  woman then she has to pay the child support payments as it is a shared income despite the fact that he stays home so your thinking is flawed

Answer 5

I don't think you make child support payments if you don't have a job.  So, the ex-wife would give HIM child support payments as long and she is working.  There's no difference, as long as one person is working, it doesn't matter who stays home with the kids.

Answer 6

your right here starts the war!! I am a SAHM there are many people on here that think we are lazy in many ways but honestly I work harder now then I did running my own business. If the man stays home to take care of the children that's great but I do think once all the kids reach school age and are attending that the SAHP should either get a job or volunteer while the children are at school. I personally think it is a wonderful chance to stay at home with my children and my husband gave me the best gift in the world and I truly respect him for it!

Answer 7

I feel there is no difference between a stay at home mom or a stay at home dad but i feel if one should stay at home it should be the mom also if the dad as obligations to pay Child support he needs to work and pay this it should not be left up to his new wife to pay his child support but this is just my opinion

Answer 8

In my opinion there is no difference between a stay at home mom or a stay at home dad.  they may have different methods, but the love and care is still there.  Now, add in the child support.  If the child support is not being paid at all then he is letting down his obligation, SAHD or not.  All of his children are just as important.  I don't think there is a double standard, I would say the same thing if a woman did it.  I know of women who pay child support, and if they don't pay it they are just as at fault as any man.  Just my opinion though.  

Answer 9

I think it's fine for a mom or a dad to stay home. As far as child support goes. If he has children with a previous person, as long as child support is being paid he is not a deadbeat. Once he remarries, they are a family and whatever works best for that family is what they should do. If he stays home and she works and the child support to his ex is paid through her income then so what? The way I see it is, when you are married whoever makes the income is making it for the whole family's needs and if child support falls into the catagory then so be it.

Just like if a woman had children from a previous marriage and then remarried and stayed home, the husbands income would be going toward supporting that child just the same. As long as the support is paid, then no one is a deadbeat.

Answer 10

Child support is calculated based on potential income, when *either* parent does not have an income.  The income of both parents, working or not, potential or real, is used to calculate the amount that one parent pays to the other, in order for the child to maintain a standard of living as close as possible to that that they would have if their parents had not separated.  

And, whether the paying parent is working or not, it is their responsibility to pay child support.  When they don't pay that, they are considered a 'deadbeat'.  It really doesn't matter what else they're doing with their time, male or female.  

A parent who was responsible for paying child support to the child's other parent & who chose to stay home to care for another child with another parent, is still responsible for paying child support to the parent of the first child.  Male or female.  If the parent of the second child isn't willing to help pay child support for the first child, then, to be a responsible person, the paying parent will have to come up with a plan to make that money another way, otherwise, they are, in essence, neglecting their first child.  

Answer 11

If you have a child, expect to support it.  If that means working (which it does, unless you are independently wealthy), then do so.  Using the excuse of "I'm a SAHM/D" isn't going to put food on the table for the child you created.

Staying at home is a privilege, and if you have financial responsibilities, you don't get it.