Stay at home wife and mom/wife.... Is my husband addicted to poker? Is it ruining our marriage?

Question

I am a 22 year old stay at home mother of two beautiful babies. My husband works 50+hours a week. We just recently got the internet and he loves to play poker, which i do not have a problem with. In the past week, he has been in several different tournaments, and may i add this is only play money. I will stay up until three in the morning sometimes, because I know its the only way we will be able to spend time together, me watching him play. I told him earlier this morning there was a tournament going on, he said he was not in the mood so just a minute ago he was going to enter into one and well, he did, and I was sitting at the computer, until time for him to play, I looked down at the clock and realized that it was almost two and he had to be into work at five o clock. Meaning the tourney would last two hours and then he would have thirty minutes to get ready for work, and no time with the kids, now this may have been wrong of me, but I went all in on purpose and so we could all

spend time together.

he got mad and slammed a cabinet door. And said you never give me a chance. I have sacrificed every night for the past week to let him play. Anywayz, we usually have s*x once every two weeks if I am lucky, I love having s*x with my husband and want it everyday. I am usually the one that pursues. Anyway, he called me to bed the other night and said "guess what, playing in that tourney has got me all juiced up" That made me feel like poker was the turn on instead of me.

I asked him today, if he had a choice of being in a poker tournament or having s*x with me, which would he choose, he said "Well would the tournament be for alot of money" What am I supposed to do! I desperately need guidance on this! I love him so much and try to encourage him I even hooked him up with a pro poker player who is very well known in the poker community! PLEASE HELP!

Answer 1

This is going to far, you two need to sit down and talk. The internet can be fun but, not every night and certainly not take the place of s*x with you. I would have died for a woman that wanted me all the time. He is taking his work stress out on the games. You need to say OK, 2 nights a week is enough and never more than 2 hours a time. Let him know you need him and the kids need his attention. Gosh come out  naked and tell him he is needed in the bed room or your buying toys to take his place. Believe me if that doesn't get his attention then . You need counciling