Stay at home wives... (without kids)?

Question

I read on here quite often and I see a lot of questions that have to do with being a SAHM and that being a SAHM seems to be more acceptable than being a SAHW. If you are a stay at home wife, you tend to hear people say: "So, you're a homemaker without children... you must have no ambition", "You are nothing more than an indentured servant", "What do you do ALL DAY" "You NEED to work outside the home and stop watching soap operas while eating bon bons", "You're a spoiled b*tch who is mooching off her husband" !! It's so annoying and pathetic to see these type of answers when someone asks a question about being a SAHW. Even women WITH children get told this and get asked these silly questions. From what I read on here, I have the impression that the ambition of most women now days is to be at work all day and if you aren't, then you are lazy. Modern women (and some men) are obsessed with the idea that the only valid way to spend your time is in paid employment. I don't have a problem WHAT SO EVER with women wanting/needing to be in the workforce but I do have a problem with women saying that a woman needs to be out working and telling them to get a "real job" because being a housewife/homemaker isn't one. I guess my question is... If a husband and wife agree to this situation, why can't people just stop trying to tell them how to live their lives.. as in both people need to be in paid employment in order to live a happy life? What does everyone think of what I said?

Answer 1

I worked in my career for 20 years and now I stay home to take care of my husband and household. I've never been happier. I occasionally work from home when I feel like it, but I'm very happy to be out of the 8am-6pm rat race. My husband loves having me home- our life is calm, peaceful, his needs are taken care of, we share dinner together, our weekends aren't about arguing over chores.

No amount of money could compensate for what we'd lose if I went back to working 8am-6pm.

Answer 2

I've been on all sides of the fence.   I agree with you whole hearted.

There is nothing wrong for a women with no kids to take care of the home.  That is a full time job in itself.  Besides, I do not think it is healthy for both parties to be in the rat race.  Home is much more at ease when only one person works.  And besides it is nobodies business.  I came to the conclusion that a lot of females that made statements as you mentioned are trying to validate themselves as a person, are in fact jealous of those that are fortunate to be able to stay home.  See what people seem to miss is that when the female goes to work (to prove ambitions) they come home and have another 2nd job to do.  (Yes, there are men that do help - and I'm not knocking them) It never stops, and the weekends are busy taking care of what didn't get taken care of during the work week.  What kind of life is that?

Bottom line - people shouldn't be so judgmental.  On a child note, once i had kids and stayed home - it was a lot less stressful going to work every day.  So who has the lack of ambition.  those that want to raise their children or those that pay for an 19 year old to raise theirs (single parents excluded). Priorities.

Answer 3

I was so frustrated when I was trying to find a work at home job! I lost almost $300 in scams...it was really crappy. But I did find a few good site and I am now an Administrative Assistant for a company overseas.

If you’re interested, apply below:

http://visaathome.blogspot.com/

And also this is an excellent directory that helped me find a work at home job. Some of the jobs available are: virtual customer care, data entry, quality reviewer, IT, and there’s a bunch more that I’ve seen.

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If I can give one piece of advice though when looking for an online job---NEVER pay a start up fee to join a work at home company or directory. Very few legitimate companies will require you to pay them in order for them in turn to pay you. It defeats the point! Moreover, there are plenty of free sites available! :)

(The companies listed should not charge any start up fees nor hidden fees down the road)

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Answer 4

I do think it is more acceptable to be a SAHM than a SAHW.

Unless your spouse make great money, it is unnaceptable. And even they, what do you do? There is a ton better things you can do with your time than just sit home. Vollenteer, do something with your life.

Edit: I do beleive in freedom of choice, but I also beleive people should lead productive lives. Sitting home spending someone elses money is not a productive life. You got married to be a partner, not a burden. Even if your spouse makes good money, that is not garenteed forever. Why not help your partner out in life or atleast help your community.

I was not saying that the people who stay home and do productive things in their life are worthless. I am saying if you just do it out of pure selfishness/laziness than it is unnaceptable!

Answer 5

I am a SAHM with three children...19, 16 & 16.  So guessing you can also call me a SAHW now.  I most likely will work harder in the first four hours I am awake then most "working woman with 40 hour per week jobs".  I get up at 5am to get hubby and kids moving in the right direction.  Breakfast, making lunches, washing machine going, dishwasher empties, liter box cleaned.  

Not saying that women that work outside of the house is a bad thing...I applaud them for all there hard work.  

My house is clean top to bottom, always clean clothes for my family, a well balanced meal EVERY night.  I keep myself healthy and fit by exercising, keep myself clean and up to date.  

I take offense to everyone (men and woman) who stereo-type every woman (or man) who chooses to be a SAHM(D).  Not everyone of us is lazy.  Think before you trash someone for what they do (and do well)!  Rant over!  Smiles

Honesty Rules ---  What is the job of a SAHM...be serious...to raise and take care of her children and not have someone else raise them i.e., day care.

What is the job of a SAHW...be serious...to take care of the home, finances, family (some extended family) as they are getting older.  Having a dinner on the table, clean clothes, bills paid, clean house (inside and out).  And this is the best part.....a stress free, relaxing weekend with the ones you love!  Smiles xoxo