Stay together or part ways????

Question

Me and my gf have been together for over 3 yrs and we have a 4 1/2 month old. We used to be awesome before the kid, but now we fight constantly and life is miserable for both of us. I definitely do not want to be away from my boy and staying together seems like the only way that can happen. I would almost rather be miserable and be around my kid than to break up and see him half the time. We fight about the dumbest things. What to do??

Answer 1

I think you have to ultimately do whats best for the baby. If  you wanna work it out then you guys have to communicate more efficiently. Why is it that everytime you have a disagreement with your close love one,  it ends up with more confussion and hard feelings. all of your disagreements should bring you together not drive you apart. pray and ask god what is best for you. he knows if the woman you are with is the person for u. I promise if you put him first he will lead and guide you in the right direction if you trust him

Answer 2

ask yourself this: How good of a parent are you or will you be to your child if you are totally miserable yourself.

Talk with your gf about the situation, see how she feels and try to make a plan to work it out together. If either of you think the relationship is over now, then my suggestion is to seperate but make sure that is what you both want and are able to come to an amicable agreement regarding your child first.  

Answer 3

I feel your pain ! man

all i can Say is take it before god ... get some type of counseling , or just give each other clean slates and put forth the effort to make it right!

Don't do any foolish stuff like comit suicide!! {4ever damnation}

But rember all things work out for the good!

Good Luck And Be Blessed!

Answer 4

tell her how you feel. tell her how miserable you are. chances are shes as miserable as you, and those "dumb things" you fight over might be you not understanding something that is really important to her. if you cant work things out, then break up. trust me on this one, your kid would much rather grow up in a divided house than in a house where all he sees is fighting.

Answer 5

First of all sit down after the baby is asleep and everything is quiet. Have a good heart to heart talk, I would be willing to bet that she feels the same way you do. Don't walk out because of silly arguements that would be a big waste of ones energy. Try your best to work it out and make a concious effort to not fight over dumb stuff. Really think about it is your girl and baby worth that little, or way more than that.

Answer 6

See a marriage counselor for the sake of the child. The responsibility of parenthood can add immeasurable joy if you are ready for it Sit down and try to talk about reorganizing the work load. get someone to watch the baby and have a date night where you are not allowed to speak about the house, your son or problems and go to church and pray like crazy that God will help you through the rough spots.  

Answer 7

Try to understand her point of view and if the fighting continues, sit her down and tell her honestly how you feel. That you love your family, and you don't want to jeopardize it by fighting

Don't walk out because you hit a rough patch.  

Answer 8

A new baby in the mix definitely increases the stress level. Babies take a lot of adjustment-your wife's hormones being all out of whack doesn't help . I would give it a little more time. You are adjusting to being a new father also, it isn't easy! No one explained all of this to you when you were excited about being a father. I used to fight with my husband all the time when I first had the baby and I blamed everything on him. He actually stayed with me-it has been 24 years now! Hang in there!  

Answer 9

I really think that you should try to work it out. But if you are truly not happy with her you need to leave. From personal experience it is worst for a kid to grow up in a family that argues all the time than it would be to see both parents happy with other people. If your child sees and hears you two arguing all the time he or she will grow up thinking that is the way relationships are supposed to be. That would not be a good thing! So the point is, if you think you can be happy with her then work it out. But think about the future! Good luck I wish you the best :)

Answer 10

Go to counseling work your problems out and get married.I would say ONE thing is that youve been shacking together for the last 3 yrs, she has your baby and still.no commitment.It is making her MORE and MORE insecure.It can drive a woman to the first guy who promises marriage.

You say you'll stay for the kid, soesn't mean she will.If you're going to stay for the kid, then marry her, you can always divorce her later if things are worse and it is no different than just picking up and leaving.Many shack ups end up in small claims court son.