Step parent issues? help?

Question

i think that a step parent dosn't have the inicial right to physically discipline a child. but i live w/my grandma and she recently got married and her new husband is abusive and short tempered and quik to discipline rather than talk and he speaks for her and in turn she just agreees w/everything he says/does even if its completely irrational!

anyone else have this problem? it's not right! advice?

Answer 1

I kinda have some issues with a stepmother in law. I feel she oversteps her bounds on some things. She tries to act like his real mom. My younger brother in law already calls her mom when he visits. I know she just eats it up. Whenever my husband lived in his dad's house, the stepmother would throw things away she thought was inappropriate for the boys to have and do things without asking their dad first.

Answer 2

From personal experience he does not have a right to lay a hand on you, he is not your father. I can understand telling you not to do something just because he is your elder and you should respect your elders, but because he is older that does not give him the right to touch you. You should bring it up with your grandmother about it and let her know how you feel. My moms ex-boyfriend used to discipline us by yelling and hitting us, it ruined our relationship for a long time bc she would never say anything. Speak up for yourself. Even though he is older that's no excuse to hit you.

Answer 3

if he hits you, you can call the police, he aint **** to you.

Answer 4

unfortunatly a step parent does have a legal right to punish a child do to the fact that there legaly married to the legal gaurdian. now that dosent mean its right nor fair but i would suggest trying to talk to your grandmother as she can catch his ear and express to her the problem that you have with the actions of the person do not include its not fair i dont think he has the right or any other thing such as that simply state your problem because its a proven fact that if one person is acting childish than the other will act the parent if both are acting like adults the conversation cannot turn do not get angry with anything said.

Answer 5

i had this problem growing up and basically you are right, legally they have no right to touch you unless they have legally adopted you. I would give your grandmother a chance and let her know how you feel, if she doesn't listen i would warn him that if he touches you again you will call child protective services BUT you have to be prepared to follow through, and that could mean being removed from your family. Weigh your options.