Stepfather cheating possibly? Did I do the right thing?

Question

I was living with my mom and her boyfriend/baby daddy. I also worked with my mom's man. I told my mother last night of a rumor I had heard that her man had almost cheated on her. Basically, the girl he was after..worked at the company we worked at together. He had asked her to commit to him but she said she didn't want to and loved her freedom. There was exchanges of sexual dreams, and much flirting at work. I explained to my mom what I had heard, so she called her man out. He FLIPPED on me, cussed me out, told me F-U and ur friend who told you this, you guys can F-off etc. He decided to blame me saying I am the reason his family is wrecked, and he is gonna lose his son and my mom. He made me feel awful and I tried to explain to him that I was passing information, not accusing him of anything. However, he does have a past history of infidelity, he got with my mom after cheating on his own wife.

Anyways, I moved out asap and I am just feeling awful !! I never meant to tear them apart, but if I had a boyfriend and my friends knew something was going on, I'd want to know.

My family has assured me I did the right thing and he's guilty by the way he flipped out and got in my face...almost hitting me. I am so worried for my mom and baby brother. Please tell me what you think...

Answer 1

Even if he cheated on your mom then you should have not told your mom. Because it wouuld have ruined their life and you did exactly that.

You can't find a perfect man in the world, and your mom should also understand it.

Now just pray that this problem gets solved.

Answer 2

Trust me, if you DIDN'T tell her, you would be hurting your family.

Answer 3

You did what you thought was right. Don't beat yourself up about it.

You wanted to help your mom. It does sound suspicious. Yeah I think your mom and you should be careful as he sounds unsavory and could hurt any of you including baby brother.

Answer 4

You didn't know for sure that he was cheating. You told your mom based on rumors and flirtation you saw. Not good. If you knew for a fact that he was cheating then I would agree that you should tell her but you hurt her and caused her to question him based on rumors. Did you ever stop to think that this girl started those rumors herself to make herself look good?

You need to learn from this. Your mother can handle her own relationships. Unless you know for a fact that there is an affair going on, go to him and tell him you are upset, that he isn't being respectful of your mom by flirting so openly.

Something else you can learn from this is that if a man will cheat on his wife with you and leave her for you, he will cheat on you and you will never be sure he will stay with you. Don't get involved with men like that. It only leads to heartbreak.

I think you should go to your mom and him both together and explain that it was rumors you heard and apologize for getting involved. If he is cheating, your mom will find out. If he isn't, they deserve the chance to work things out.

Answer 5

At the end of the day this is between your mom and him. It shouldn't matter who told your mom since she would have probably found out sooner or later.

It has also been my experience that when you are getting cheated on you kind of know it's happening but don't want to admit it to yourself.