Stepson Lying About The Dog HELP?

Question

Okay in a nutshell bf son is lying about how ad what the dog chews like he says she opens cupboards i can barely open. And he says she got things from the counter which is WAY too high for her.

Today he gave her a treat, a big one. Which she wasn't supposed to have because of her weight. He denied giving it to her and she couldn't have gotten it herself and I DIDNT give it to her.

I dont wanna have to have this lying go on in my house. but I also dont wanna say tht i think my bf son is lying to my bf because he wont believe me or listen. How should I deal with this? Both sides of argument welcome.

BTW he is 8 and I KNOW he is lying!

Answer 1

My son just turned 9 and he tells lies to avoid punishment too.  It's part of their development at that age.  Here's a good link that talks about why and what kinds of lies kids tell at different stages of development and how to handle it:

http://www.parenting-ed.org/handout3/Spe...

Answer 2

just chill out this isn't the end of the world ,don't start accusing an 8year old of being a liar as this will stick and lying will become normal all this is trivia believe me

Answer 3

hidden camera

or

baby proof locks

Answer 4

I agree with ♥Lucky♥ 2nd Bun in the Oven 100%, follow her advice.

And thumbs up to Doodle too.

Answer 5

Put child locks on all the cabinets.  Obviously a dog would never be able to operate a child lock, so your stepson will have to either stop misbehaving or else get caught.  

Also hide the dog's treats so that your step-son can't reach them.  Since he can't be reasoned with, it's best to elminate the temptation altogether.

Answer 6

sit down with the son and explain about what the weight issues can do to a dog, so that's why she is to have a restricted diet, maybe he does not understand he is killing her with kindness, if he still does it you must talk to his father, as your dogs health is at risk. and would you feel ok if something happened to your dog because of the son's actions. i expect you would not, so speak to the son first, if it carries on, speak to the dad. good luck

Answer 7

Okay first of all you should not have to deal with this problem.  Tell your bf that his son is lying and if he doesn't believe you well then there is a problem there.  You have to make him understand that his son is not telling you the truth.  It is up to him to deal with this, it is his son and he should be dealing with it.  

Answer 8

i was in a similar situation once

my braclet went missing from my home after id let this girl in i knew, obvyisly i wasnt 100% sure she had stole it but it was a good guess, later in the week i saw her wearing it, i asked her where she got it and she said she found it in a field, but then told one of my other friends her older cuzin gave it to her

instead of pulling her aside i went to see her parents, i was expecting an ear full off them for caling their daughter a theif aswell as a liar, but isntead they knew exactly what she was like and told me they were very sorry for the trouble and took the braclet back off her and handed it to me

maybe your b'f knows what his son is like for lying

Answer 9

If you have BF that is going to believe and trust an 8 year old kid over a you, a GROWN ADULT it sounds like you guys aren't really a good match and should break up. If your bf is mature he'll do something about it, but you've got to tell him what's going on. Maybe he's doing this stuff because he thinks you aren't going to tell his father, therefore he won't get in trouble. And if you let this lying go on like this he's going to grow up a bad child and have huge issues and that would be YOUR fault. You don't want that on you, right? Do the right thing. Even if the stars fall.... DO RIGHT. There's no right reason for doing wrong. Please handle this.

Marium has a good idea. HIDDEN CAMERA

Answer 10

Yes, he's lying. Most children lie. In fact, most adults aren't honest all the time. But kids are less than truthful for lots of reasons. My sister used to lie about feeding the cats, then the poor kitties starved 'til the next day.  Your future in this boys life is going to be very stressful to you if you have unrealistic expectations of the child. Try getting some books about kids his age to see what's normal. It'll make everything so much easier.