Stepson wedding advice please?

Question

Stepson is getting married.

I am not close to him, infact i know he really doesn't like me.

Husband has been asking me about how much he should give to him as a wedding gift.

My husband is on a low wage and has explained that he cannot help with wedding expenses.

Besides son has snubbed him lots of time and is very much a Mummys boy.

They are still relatively close though and he visits at least once a month to see his father.

To the point, how much would be a fair amount to give.

He keeps asking me and i daren't say incase it is too much, or too less, so thats why i am asking here.

Incidentally despite maybe critical remarks, i will not be buying anything at all.

The son has never done anything for me and there has never been any closeness, just coldness for some years.

Please no mention of material gifts, husband is adamant he wants to give money, so what do you readers think is fair.

He works for under 15 an hour and i am a part time worker?

Thanks

Answer 1

If you're not attending the wedding, then I'd say $50.  If you are attending then probably $100.

The fact of the matter is that people should not be getting married in order to get gifts.  A gift is just that...something given out of the goodness of your heart, and the giver should not feel over-burdened in the giving, nor should the recipient feel that a gift is too stingy or not extravagant enough.

Frankly, if I were in that spoiled brat's father's shoes, I'd send a nice card and a gift certificate to a restaurant and that'd be it.

Answer 2

Well I don't know what you can afford.  Do what you can.  $100 or $1000.  It's depending on your budget.  I wouldn't go less than $100. Don't forget to put both of your names on the card.