Stepson wedding advice please???

Question

Stepson is getting married.

I am not close to him, infact i know he really doesn't like me.

Husband has been asking me about how much he should give to him as a wedding gift.

My husband is on a low wage and has explained that he cannot help with wedding expenses.

Besides son has snubbed him lots of time and is very much a Mummys boy.

They are still relatively close though and he visits at least once a month to see his father.

To the point, how much would be a fair amount to give.

He keeps asking me and i daren't say incase it is too much, or too less, so thats why i am asking here.

Incidentally despite maybe critical remarks, i will not be buying anything at all.

The son has never done anything for me and there has never been any closeness, just coldness for some years.

Please no mention of material gifts, husband is adamant he wants to give money, so what do you readers think is fair.

He works for under 15 an hour and i am a part time worker?

Thanks

Answer 1

Tell him that you want him to give whatever he feels he wants to.  And then, don't be critical of him if you think he gave too much.  This is his son, after all.

Answer 2

He should give whatever he can afford, and not a penny more. I don't know exactly how much he can afford, but even if he only gives $10 its the thought that counts. if your son can't see that his father doesn't have much and gets s****. that your hubby decided h would rather eat than give his son a bigger gift, then tough poo to him.

Answer 3

$500

Answer 4

I would say between $300-$500.  Unless you think that helping "pay" for something would be better.  Perhaps say that you will pay half of the brides ring, or the limo costs or whatever.  (Sometimes, not always mind you, this is cheaper than giving money)