Stessing about not becoming pregnant!?

Question

everyone keeps saying to me, "stop stressing it will happen" "if u stress it Will never happen, try not to worry about it to much". but how can you not worry ad stress when it is all you want? its always on my mind especially when that time of the month comes and i get frustrated that once again I'm not pregnant.

we have just started to see the doctors and are getting all the test done and so far so good.

how can u not stress and think about it all the time when its all you want? and does the whole "stressing" and "thinking" about it really make a difference?

Answer 1

I am in the same place as you are. I want a baby and ended up having my time of the month and oh I was so frusterated. My fiance keeps telling me to stop stressing because it won't happen if I am stressing about it. I don't know if it is true or not but I am doing my best on not thinking about it and not stressing. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

Oh, that argument used to make me scream!  "You can't get pregnant if you keep worrying about it!"  I heard it a million times.....I also heard "Eat broccoli", "take cough syrup" and "do it in the back of a car like a teenager".  Yikes.

Of COURSE it is on your mind; its your greatest wish!  You are not making it worse by thinking about it, don't put that on yourself.

You need to tell yourself that you are doing all that you can by seeing the doctors, and you need to remind yourself that millions of other women go through the same thing.  Then tell yourself this, which I know to be true; all of the waiting and wanting of a baby will make you a more patient and appreciative Mom when your turn comes.

Finally, try to find a support group or a therapist to help you to cope.  The group RESOLVE is very good!  Good luck.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I know that it is very difficult not to stress or worry. My husband and I tried to conceive for 8 months. I was set that having a baby was never going to happen. And the month that we did get preggo, I had decided the time wasn't right to have a baby. I missed my period and took a test and was very surprised to find out that I was pregnant. I know what you are going through I have been there. But try to relax and make BDing fun. Try not to think of how much you want a baby. Baby dust!! Good luck : )

Answer 5

it does suck when ppl tell u not to stress, i hate it also. no stressing does not affect u becoming pregnant but it can cause your period not to come and also stressing and thinking can also cause  'phantom pregnancies'. which really is something you really dont want, they are awful especially when u are trying for one, so stressing less is a good thing but u really dont need to hear it all the time lol

ps good luck hope we can all hear you are finally preg soon :)