Still in love or just routine?

Question

i have been with my bfrnd now for over 3half yrs and we wer living together nad engaged.. but i have gave the ring back nd have moved back home as i though that this was making me un happy. i am nly 20, i still love him to bits but i thnk that r relationship might now be a routine!! i am goin away now to NYC to my friend for 3mnths and he said he will wait for me..smtimes he realli annoys me, others i thnk if he was gone would i go mad without him?

routine or still in love?

Answer 1

ok ur only 20 its still abit early 4 u 2 be properly settlin dwn i think dat ur a bit haven'td about commitment da best thing 2 do is go 2 nyc c wat happens n after if u still feel da same bout him u knw dat hes da only one 4 u  

Answer 2

Its simple, if you really loved this man you would not want to be without him. Live your life you are only young dont stick with him because you will look back when you are my age and wonder what you have done with your life and let me tell you its not a rehersal you only get one chance, if you love each other and its meant to be you will get back together. go have a good time.

Answer 3

I would guess that you already feel it has become a routine just by asking the question but need someone to confirm it. We can give opinions but you should not make a decision based on these alone.

Fortunately for you, it sounds like the 3 month trip has come at exactly the right time. It will provide you with the time and space that you need to answer your own question.

It sounds corny but you really do need to take a day at a time. Try not to think too hard about the “routine or love” question. Instead, go with the flow and at some stage you will either be missing him terribly or realise that you’re happier (or could be happier) without him.

Good luck.

Answer 4

You did the right thing.

If he does wait (and you still want him) you can pick up the pieces later.