Still in nappies at 6?

Question

Can anyone offer advice - my six year old daughter is dry during the day but still wears nappies at night. I think the 'wee' is coming in the early hours of the morning but just recently she has started to p**p at night as well. I have tried everything: stopping drink after a certain time, lifting her at night, special rewards, taking her out of nappies and letting her wet the bed, reward systems - you name it I've tried it. I sometimes feel perhaps she can't be bothered to get up but I don't want her to get upset if this is not the case. I am just dispairing now so any wise wisdom would be great - many thanks x

Answer 1

Erm you need to take her to see a Dc.

Answer 2

Sorry, but I agree with the doctor.

Buy a plastic undersheet for her bed, stick a towel under her, and leave her too it. Also make her change her own sheets and put them in the washer (even if you give her a bit of help).

It'll take a bit of time but you have to persevere. Loads of praise and treats on the good nights. On the bad ones, don't yell or smack, but it's fine to let her know you're unimpressed (esp at 3am)

It does occur to me to ask if there have been any major changes/ upsets in her life recently, but I'm assuming you've already looked at that. The same with the question of bullying at school, or some sort of unwanted physical interference from someone.

Answer 3

I think you should visit your doctor / health profession.

She may have just got in a habit or there may be an underlying cause.

Either way id get it checked out.

Answer 4

Ok this is what u have to do, u have to work out when she is wetting the bed by checking her matress through the night Or waking up a little earlier to check. When u worked out roughly what time she does it, wake her up 15mins b4 the time she would wet the bed, and make her go to the toilet. Do this for a few nights at the exact same time. After 5 days, on the 6th leave her all night and hopefully her body would work out to hold on to it until the morning.

She should be wetting the bed once and at the exact same time so when u wake her up the 15mins b4 hand the bed should be dry, if its not then the next night wake her a bit earlier so u catch her b4 she does it. Also b4 going to bed make sure she goes toilet. Its a bit of a pain waking up extra earlier for a week but it is worth it for the loess washing of the sheets and less embarresing for your little one.

Is she constipated? It isint that normal to do a number 2? Make sure she goes poo everyday in the loo and if u notice she isint put extra fibre in her diet or take her to the doctors for a light laxative

Answer 5

bedwetting is complety normal some kids don't outgrow it for a while.  My brother wet the bed until he was 12.  Sometimes they are just really hard sleepers so they don't feel the urge.  there is a mat out there that they sleep on and an alarm goes off then there is liquid on the map which makes them get up and it trains their body to start to wake up when they feel the urge.

as for the bm I don't know about that it does sound like maybe she is constipated or just holding it all day and looses control at night or maybe just doesn't want to get out of bed to go to the bathroom.

Answer 6

My friends son was still regularly wetting the bed at 12 years old.  They tried everything and then the doctor finally did some tests and found he had a long term infection.  He was given something to clear it up, and was thereafter dry at nights.  I don't know if this could be the case with your daughter but it could be worth checking out.

Answer 7

It seems you have tried everything to help your little girl, so I think the best thing is to see your doctor or health visitor as there could be an underlying problem.

They can offer you support and advice, for you and your daughter, so that neither of you feel bad about the situation.

xx

Answer 8

might be some psychological problem, i would take her to therapy to find out what the problem is.

Answer 9

r nappies diapers? or pull-ups?

anyway some people wet the bed till they are like 13. i dont think it is a huge deal. she will prob grow out of it.

Answer 10

It does sound a little like lazyness to me, maybe if u do wake her up every night to go then she will soon stop it and learn to either hold it or get up and go. Also if u strip the bed at night when she has done it the she will stop if it is lazyness as she is being disturbed and wont like that so will stop. Dont tell her of but let her know its not good as her friends wont be able to have sleep overs nor will she at her friends if it continues.

Answer 11

does your daughter have a lot of stress??  Sometimes stress will cause a youngin to pee at night, the pooping I am not for sure.  Have you noticed if she is a very deep sleeper??  Keep and eye on here when she is sleeping and maybe she is just in such a deep sleep that she can't wake herself..

Good Luck

Answer 12

My son is a "Night Pooper". He poops between 3 - 3:30am every night without fail. He is only two now so it is not a big deal but I suspect it will become a problem later on. When he starts to go poo on the potty, I guess I will just have to set my alarm and make sure he gets on the potty by 3am. Perhaps you could try and pinpoint a time that you daughter is most likely to go & then get her up every night until she is in the habit and does it on her own.

Answer 13

For what it's worth - I had bed-wetting and other problems (including a speech impediment) until ages 5. 6 & 7.

So embarrassing - it only made me all the more anxious - and less able to keep control.

You seem to be on the right tracks - giving your daughter as much re-assurance as possible - avoiding her getting upset.  Tough on you - but if you can avoid your sense of dispair being sensed by your daughter (who looks to you) I think it might help her a lot - to overcome what is more of a psychological/anxiety problem than a physical one.  (And why rationing water, etc measures haven't helped.)

Answer 14

some kids just pee in the bed for a long time me and my sister peed in the bed until we were 12

Answer 15

For adults that have frequent urination (who have to go at night) they recommend drinking MORE water, not less.  They say drink a gallon a day and your bladder soon gets so it can hold more and you can last the night.  

I guess it's still okay to avoid drinking too soon before bed.

Answer 16

Maybe she has an overactive bladder my daughter did and it didn't disappear until she was 13 enuresis is the name of the disorder and it isnt probably your daughters fault. Get a second opinion

Hope this helps

Answer 17

You really may want to talk to a doctor. Many times children wet the bed during the night when there are psychological problems (fears, anxiety, etc.). It's something that you should speak with her doctor about because it may be the physical form of an emotional/psychological problem that will only go away once addressed.

Answer 18

well my grandmother would stay with my brother and wake him up when it is the right time to go to the bathroom so would my mom it works and try to get her used to waking when it is time to go to the bathroom it usually works

when she gets used to this make she wear pull ups

also if this doesn't work make her go to the bathroom before bedtime then make sure she doesn't drink anything

then go to the docs

Answer 19

My son was still in nappies at night when he was five and the health visitor told me to do the following, and he was dry almost instantly and never looked back, now he has wet the bed twice since that time.  I never pooed in his sleep so I'm not sure about that one but may be just laziness or trying to get your attention.

You need them to drink a glass of liquid every hour until 2 hours before bed.  If they have a glass of milk as soon as they wake up and then a glass of juice at breakfast, this gives you two straight off.  Then I was very vigilant about having water or squash every single hour after that.  You do really need to concentrate but it is worth it.  You stop giving drinks two hours before bedtime, so if they go to bed at 7 the last drink is at 5.  They must have no brown drinks (ie coke, coffee, tea, hot chocolate) as these are a diuretic and over stimulate the bladder.

The theory behind this method is that the bladder is stretched during the day so it can hold more over night.  It also makes the urine less concentrate as concentrated urine irritates the bladder and needs to be released more then the less concentrated the better.

I would just keep a nappy on at night for a while and reward for dry nappies, I would ignore the poo issue for a while as that may resolve itself in time (she may just be dispondent about the wee and think it doesn't matter and might as well poo anyway).

I know that this seems to be a big effort and for a few weeks it is but it is really worth it in my opinion.  It is difficult when they are at school but if you give them milk at 7, juice at 8 and then a glass at the school door at 9.  I then gave him a bottle of water, he needed to have half at breaktime and then he had to have a glass at lunch and the other half of the bottle at afternoon break.  I then gave him a drink immediately he left the class and then carried on every hour.  I actually started in the holidays so the pattern was already established so the school time wasn't quite so critical by then.

Best of luck.