Still so sad, left while pregnant- what to do?

Question

After being together around 9 years, my bf decides to leave. We have a 3 yr old and a new one on the way. Our relationship has not always been the best - but I always thought the love was there. The new baby is due in november, I am graduating college in May- and we were supposed to be getting a house together ( @ this point we both have our own) and actually living as a family. Then about 4 weeks ago- we got into an argument and I left his home. The argument was seriously wasn't a big deal .Now he won t even so much as talk to me. He has picked up our son a few times- buts thats the extent of communication. I have myself sick- I am 29 weeks pregnant and feel so alone. I know I should be trying to move on, but all I can think of is him. Maybe its my hormones - but i just keep hoping that things change. I know I could do the single parent - but I just never pictured it this way. If you ve ever been in this situation- please just help me.

Answer 1

Life will go on I know it is hard.  But I got through it and so will you.  I was with a man for 3 years and we had no kids together but we were raising our children together.  Well I got pregnant and he was happy did everything picked out the hospital, midwife was going crazy buying everything and he knew it was a boy from start.  Then one day at work I was ready to turn 21 weeks I get a call and it was stranged because a co worker took the message and it had his name on it but not his work or cell number I called and he asked how was I and I told him busy at work what is it.  He said he will always love the baby but he met a women in the bar a few months back and they got married that morning.  It killed me but let me tell you something it made me so much stronger.  Sad that I know all this but next month will be five years this happen and my son will be five shortly after yes it was a boy.  But I thank god for him everyday and I am married now almost 2 years to a great man I have a beautiful house I know have 3 kids and we are having our 2nd together.  I am so glad it turned out like this.  And you know what he is still married to that women and he cheats on her so much it is not even funny.  She told me once that she did not want him coming to my house alone because she knows he still wants me.  To bad he had it and lost it.  Good luck baby girl and I wish I could hold your hand because it is not easy but you will make it.  

Answer 2

I am so sorry that you are going thru this hun.  I had gone thru this when I was expecting my second child.  My ex-husband (husband at the time) was being a real jerk and we got into a fight and he hit me with his fist in the face.  I was at the time 8 months pregnant.  I called the police but did not have him jailed.  He was angry that I did that so he was going to divorce me.  I had my baby and a week later he left me with a 3 year old son and my newborn.  I lived without him for 6 months.  What I did was this.........pay no attention to them.  I wanted my husband back just like you do honey but if you cry and carry on when they are there it does no good.  I did not let my husband see me cry, not one time !!!!   I was always smiling at him and agreeable with him. Do not ask your man what he is planning on doing, leave it all in the air, I KNOW this is going to be hard for you but ......you must focus on this new baby.  This new baby with your other son will really take your mind alot off of your man, trust me.  You will be so busy that you will literally "crash" when you get the chance.  Six months after my husband left he wondered if I had found someone else as I was not crying or asking him questions.  We talked and he came back.  So there is HOPE.  Just don't let him see you "sweat".  It is sad as I sit here and think about it.........15 years later we got divorced.....should have let him divorce me when he threatened too the first time.  Oh well, water under the bridge.  CONGRATS on your new little life and BLESSINGS !!!!!

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Answer 3

HUGS  

Answer 4

I gotta tell you something

YOU ARE A STRONG WOMAN

don't give up, have conversations with your family, a family member always makes us warm. =]

go out with friends, go to parks, pray, meditate

remember you ARE STRONG YOU CAN DO IT!

do it for your kids...

good luck! wish you the best! I'll be praying!

Answer 5

My boyfriend and I have only been together one year, but now I am 26 weeks pregnant, and things are harder than ever. I just can't be with him. I can't understand the pain of this being what your used to for 9 years and now everything has flipped, but it will be okay.  Don't stress too much now, because he more than likely will come around before the baby is born. Either way, you don't need him. Babies need their mommies and no one else.

Good Luck, everything will be okay.

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