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Straight relationship problems?

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I am in deep ****, entirely due to my own fault.

I am a g*y and am not come out, I'm 19 and am currently in a straight relationship. And I want out.

I don't want to be g*y. For about four months now I've been going out with one of my friend's friends, she fell for me and we made out whilst drunk. Bad, I know, but I've never had any sexual experience of any kind before (not even kissing) and I didn't want to reject her advances as I'd seem g*y. I know three friends who fancy her and she is apparently really hot, by straight standards. When the relationship started, I thought maybe I'd become straight because she was so hot, stupid I know. But we've gone in deeper and I have no feelings for her whatsoever; the whole thing is very superficial, shes always coming onto me and kissing me and feeling me and I return it but I rarely get turned on but I feel bad because she's always telling me she loves me and how much she wants me whenever we're making out. When we first started going out I (reluctantly) was meeting up with her every other day and each day ended up with us making out or passionately kissing and dirty talk. Now, the bomb dropped about a week ago when she whispered in my ear how badly she wanted to **** me and invited me back to hers for the night. I declined and made excuses as I simply cannot get it up and the thought of s*x repulsed me. I am a virgin. I felt really bad as she seemed really upset and only came onto me harder for the rest of the day. She seems besotten with me and I feel like absolute **** because I let this happen because I was interested in a straight relationship as I hate the thought of a g*y relationship (especially how people would judge me) and I thought since she was so 'hot' maybe it'd still be possible for us to have a relationship. But theres no connection. Please help me, I have no idea what to do :( I want to break up, but I feel terrible because she seems to like me so much and her best friend told me she always talks about me. I feel f()cking terrible and I just want out, without hurting her feelings. How do I break it to her? I've decided if I do get out of this I will come out, but I don't want to embarrass her that she's been going out with a g*y guy. Please, any advice appreciated!

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  1. this has nothing to do with coming out.

    you have to be honest with her. even if you're not leading her on, the perception is that you're not doing enough to be honest so she knows what she's buying.

    if there's no connection, then stop it. to continue would be to abuse her and yourself. (my opinion, not a flame, just my perception).


  2. damm i guess jus be honest with her she should understand but either way she ill prob be  lil hurt....goodluck

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