Stressed out girlfriend. need immediate help please !!

Question

okay shes so really stressed out by her family and how they won't let her go outside. shes 20 years old. shes also stressed because she works full time but gives all her money to the mom and the mom uses it for gambling, also, she wants to go back to school but her mom says that she can't cause she needs to help pay rent or w/e cas her mom gambles. what can I do or what can she do, any suggestions to help get rid of her stress in a positive way. please help !! im scared for her and worried. it makes me sad.

she wants to move out but is scared because what if she loses her job ?

Answer 1

she needs to move out. thats not a healthy environment for her. SHE'S 20 YEARS OLD! I've lived on my own since I was 18!  I got a job, got an apartment, had my own car. I worked full time and worked as a cocktail waitress at a college bar on the weekends for extra money. I even went to college and got my bachelors degree (using shcolarships and student loans) and make an awesome living now!

She needs a little moral support from you and maybe a little push!

Why doesnt the mom get a freakin job and support her own bad habbit.

Answer 2

Well, she is 20 years old...she doesnt need to stay and pay rent for her mom. she should use her money for what she wants, and she should support herslef, not her mom. Her mom needs to get help...and your girlfriend needs to do stuff for herself. your girlfriend needs to have a say out of town with close friends or you. to take her mind off her responsibilities and burdens.

   Her mom is a grown adult she needs to fend for herself not have her daughter do it for her. She should be the one to use her money, not her mother...she needs to move out. for her mental and physical health.

  your girlfriend needs to take up a creative hobby or join a club. that usually helps with relieving stress.

                  best of luck

Answer 3

if she goes to college she can get loan to pay her rent and books, its normal these days, and when she graduates she can pay it back

practicaly everyone have to do it, student loans are perfectly normal these days

i think she just must suply and then get a loan to cover her costs, she dont owe her mom anything, this way maybe she finaly forses her mom to rethink things and get help...atm she is doing her a bearfavor by staying

time to leave the nest