Strict parent trouble?

Question

omfg i am getting so frustrated with my parents there really really strict i am not allowed to go anywhere without a parent the only places i am allowed to go are the shops with my friends and the movies but i want to go to partys and stuff like that but they dont allow me they dislike me hanging around boys and im 13 years old im soo fed up i try and have a conversation with them to tell them that i am reasponsible and mature enough but they never seem to listern and it just ends up into an arguement. im really tired of missing out of going places without my friends what can i do? please help

Answer 1

"omfg" no wonder they are worried about you, this isn't something I would want my 13 year old to say or write.  It's bad enough without the "f-ing"  

Instead of telling  them you are mature, try showing it, you say they do not listen and you end up arguing, so next time, do not argue, that takes two, be the "mature" one and you listen to them they are your parents, you just might surprise them and over time, you can build their trust that you really are mature and responsible.

Answer 2

I know you may not agree but your parents are not out to ruin your life.

I used to feel exactly the same way but now that I am a little older I understand My parents knew better than I did and they were trying to protect me.

the rules I had were very similar to yours. When I started to try and break those rules I put myself in some situations I didnt plan on and that scared the c**p out of me. I realized my parents are my parents for a reason and I have plenty of time to hang around and boys and go to parties later.

Answer 3

This happened to me too. What the problem is is that they feel sad that your growing up and your not going to be there little baby anymore.

They probably feel like if you go out with your friends then thats that and there never get there little girl back again. Its frustrating but youve got to tell them what you think. That you are capable of walking around with your friends, without getting into any sort of trouble, getting home at a good time, making sure if youve got a mobile that you will keep it with you at all times and that you just want to have some fun with your friends instead of being stuck with just being with them at school, and that you wont go far from home. I hope this helps.

Answer 4

You sound like a very lucky 13 year old girl who is fortunate enough to have caring parents who are doing the right things to make certain that you grow up to be responsible and get the opportunities in life that you deserve.

Of course at 13 you don't see it like that, but if you could transport yourself to the future and look back you would see that you are truly lucky and are being given a real gift.  It is so much easy to give in and let your 13 year old go to parties, hang around boys and basically end up in trouble.  It is much harder to be the mean parent and suffer the looks of disapproval and the attitude of a 13 year old that is not getting what they want.

You won't like this answer but I hope you at least try to take it on board as you are a very lucky girl.

Answer 5

Do you love anyone say... three or four years younger than you?   Do you worry when they don't listen to something you try to tell them?  I remember chatting to an old man [82 years old] who explained to me that you never stop learning or growing up.  Now I'm getting old too and I know what he meant.  Right now your Mom & Dad can see how you're growing up, and they are dreading all the arguments and the lies that come between families at that time.  Try to stay honest and not answer back, but once they've had their say try to get them to explain a bit more why they want a particular thing done a particular way.  But remember its not easy to get someone younger to listen properly and sometimes [but not always] we just can't figure out what to say, but we still know better usually.  

When you don't think they understand write them a long letter.  Sometimes when you write you see the answer before they need to give it.  But if they see what you're thinking they will trust you more, so long as you are honest with yourself too!

Answer 6

love put up with  it

who knows what could happen to you and blah blah

they are only doing it because they love you.

Answer 7

Believe it or not, your parents were your age once and they know what goes on at parties where older kids will be. We thought our parents were mean then too. We also know that its even worse now than when we were your age.

They love you and want to protect you. If its a party at a friend's house where everyone is about your age you have wiggle room but no way would I allow my 13 yr old to go to a party where there are going to be teens older than 14.

They don't want to be mean. They want to protect you from being influenced by people who are doing things which could hurt you even if you didn't choose to participate.  

Answer 8

And your complaining about this? My son isn't allowed to go anywhere without us, only to friends houses, and thats only if their parents are home. With the way society is these days, with teenage rape, molestation and murder, you're very lucky to have the freedom that you have. Until you are least 15, I would think twice before complaining about your situation. My son is 13 also, and he doesn't have a problem with his boundaries. Try looking at things from your parents point of view for a change, and respect their rules, otherwise before you know it they are going to kick you out of their house. Just remember, their house, their rules. They are doing what they think is best for you, and you will realise this when you grow up a bit.

Just on another note... you should read this question that was posted the day after yours... don't let yourself fall into the traps of freedom too fast

http://au.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind...