Strippers?

Question

Men and women, did you have a stripper at your bachelor/bachelorette party?

I hate the idea of my fiance getting a lap dance from some other woman even if it is all just tradition. I wouldn't keep him from having one, I just am not fond of the idea! I am not engaged or anything, I am just thinking about the future.

Answer 1

My husband and I decided not to do the stripper thing.  We both don't really like that kind of deal so it wasn't a big decision.  His guy friends wanted him to go to a strip club but he declined.

Answer 2

Some men do, some men don't. I've worked in that industry before, and I can tell you that some men shouldn't. They're not emotionally mature enough to handle it. It's not exactly tradition, though. A man could go kayaking, skydiving, or drive into the desert to howl at the moon.

But since you're not even engaged "or anything", why worry about it? Isn't that putting the cart before the horse?

Answer 3

My fiancé and I talked about this a long time ago when a good friend begged him to go to a strip club with him and he said no. He told me about it and he said that he wasn't going to have strippers at his bachelor party even. He saw it as being disrespectful to me if he went a strip club or have strippers at his party. It's not necessarily a tradition, it's personal preference. You need to tell your fiancé how much it would hurt you if he had strippers. There are plenty of ways to have a wonderful and memorable bachelor or bachelorette party without having to include strippers. Honestly I don't know a single person who had a bachelor or bachelorette party that included strippers.

Good Luck

Answer 4

I didnt have one and neither did my husband.

We talked about it and we both agree that we would ensure that we would have something else to do at the party.

If it is an issue ~ id suggest digging deeper into the differences between your morals and values. If they are off at the time of your wedding, who know what might happen later...

Answer 5

you may feel differently when the time comes.

for example with my ex i was sooo bothered by that idea like you are. but the reason for that was because he had a wandering eye and i was afraid of being cheated on right before my wedding!

but with my husband that i have now, if he would've wanted a bachelor party, i wouldn't have cared a bit! in fact, i would've found the hottest stripper in town so he'd have a killer time! the trust is there, and the dynamics are so different than what i have before; he gives me no reason to be insecure.

but it would be something to decide with your future mate. there's nothing wrong with having issues with tradition, and he just might feel the same way.

Answer 6

I totally agree,girlfriend.No need to have one when your taken.My fiance said he doesn't want one,but I know the bestman is going to hire one.I allready told my girlfriends I didn't want one.It's disgusting.

Answer 7

Well we probably will.  My friends are dying to take me to the strip club. lol Although we'd be going to the girls anyways.  My fiance is more than welcome to go.  His buddies and him go to strip clubs every once in a while anyways.  Personally, I don't have a problem with it.  I trust him and he never tries to hide it from me so I have no issues with it.

Although, by the time this issue arises for you, you should be able to tell your future husband that you feel uncomfortable with it.  If he tells his friends he doesn't want one they should respect that as well.

Answer 8

Well I just saw a special on what strippers do at bachelor parties.  My fiance will not be having one!!  LOL.  The stripper basically said that their main goal is to satisfy the men, whether it be the groom or any other men there.  EWWW.  Also as far as lap dances go, she told stories about handing out condoms before the dance, and then she rubbed on the guys until they "you knowed."  EWWW.  I don't trust anyone who takes off clothes for money.  Also bachelor parties= alcohol, and no matter how faithful you are, the alcohol can affect your reaction time to things that might happen at parties like that.

Answer 9

i totally agree i wouldent want some stripper on my guy

Answer 10

It's NOT tradition.  A man should only have eyes for you, not be getting an erection from a stripper giving him one.  

My husband doesn't believe in watching women take off their clothes, and I don't believe in watching men take off their clothes.

Answer 11

My fiance', our friends, and myself don't have an interest in that kind of thing. We won't be having any such things at our parties. In fact, after having our time with our friends, we're going to meet toward the end of the evening and have a party together with all our friends.

It's not a tradition, but that is the title people have given it to excuse their own immorality. If "everyone" is doing it, it doesn't seem so bad, does it?

Strippers are tacky and disrespectful. I know the trolls won't agree, but I really don't care.