Stripping 8-year-old boys room of everything but bed and clothes ?

Question

If this is done as a punishment, how long of good behavior should it take to get toys and stuff back?

Answer 1

I will never forget my mother did something similar to my sister, she was in middle school at the time.    I agree with some of the other answers good behavior for a week then reward him with something from the room back.  If he has a TV or video game system  I would reward these back last.  For whatever reason everything was taken away if he should revert back to those tendencies everything should be taken away at once again, not in the order they were given back one at a time.  My parents took  my sisters door off the hinges and her radio away until she could pull in better grades.

Answer 2

you have to teach them by letting them earn items back that they like i agree with the person who said that sorry that i forgot who said that but yea i just answer this question which is earning items back when they do a good job this idea is great but i think i have to contribute with my idea of my own which is not to punish him that hard just to let you know first but you can take away his desserts for 2 or 3 days that be better then just taking the whole room. удача

Answer 3

This seems a little extreme unless he did a lot to deserve it. I'd reccomend doing it for a week, maximum. Keep the stuff in a garbage bag in the garage until then. When I was a kid and refused to clean my room for ages, my dad took everything off of my floor, put it in garbage bags, and kept it for, like, a week. It sucked, and I've kept my room clean since then.

Answer 4

I would let them earn back one thing pretty quickly (maybe two or three days) so they can experience success and be motivated to keep working toward it.  Then maybe an item or bag/box a week.  Save the big/important stuff for the end.

Answer 5

This is very extreme for an eight year old. Unless he has set something on fire, I think it is too much. If you react this strongly now, what will you do later?

Answer 6

The reward should be immediate.  If they are good one night, allow them 30 minutes of TV the next night, etc.  Once they have behaved for a week, give them a toy of choice back.  But only one.  As for what they should do in their spare time, why dont you take advantage of that time with them and bake cookies, go to the park, go on a bike ride, do some artwork-whatever sounds like fun for you two to bond with each other?  If you have stripped everything out of your 8 year olds room, there are obviously some issues that need to be resolved.  Quality time will not only give him security but might help him trust you enough to tell you what's truly causing his problems and outburts.  Too many parents today rely on TV and video games and toys to entertain/babysit their children.  It's YOUR job as the parent!  And if your child cant follow the rules, there HAVE to be harsh consequences or the lesson will never be learned.

Answer 7

He must have done something REALLY bad...

I would make him wait at least a week before I gave him back the basics (more than just the bed and clothes), then after two weeks give him the rest of his stuff back.

Answer 8

He should get his things back when he shows that he can handle them responsibly on his own.  I'm assuming that that's why they were taken away to begin with (can't think of any other logical reason why this would be a consequence for anything else)

Until then, have him hang out with you, so that you can take time to re-teach him the things that he apparently missed the first time around, and assess his level of responsibility as you go along.

Answer 9

make him go outside and get some sunlight and exercise. he could do chores outside too. i believe i learned in school that 8-yr olds, as with all young children, have a slower sense of time then adults. therefore a week to them could feel like a month to us.

Answer 10

I allowed my daughter to earn one item back for each week of good behavior. (Best of all, when they start to pick toys out of the bin, you get an idea ofwhich ones really are important to them).

And, I did this to my 8 year old because she could not keep her room clean, so we made it very easy for her to do so. When she can keep it clean she earns another toy.

Answer 11

well you shouldn't take away every thing but lots of books, thick ones would good or depending on what he did he could write sentences about every couple days,if hes Good, u can give him back his stuff just dont b too strict!

Answer 12

I still remember my mom doing this to me when I was younger.  I will never forget it.  As long as I was behaving well, she gave 1 bag back a week.  I didn't know what was in the bag until I got it.