Struggling with age difference?

Question

I met a man who is 23 and I am 40. He thought I was in my late 20's...I'm lucky...look younger than I am. I have dated different aged men and found that doesnt seem to matter what age....they can still be jerks. This man has been nicer to me and treated me better than anyone I have ever met, so the reason why I like him so much. He's not what I am usually attracted to and more on the chubby side where as I am really into fitness....but his heart just amazes me. He now has professed that he is falling in love with me...by the way we have not been intimate yet. Can I take someone this age serious? could this work? Should I go with my heart? or my brain telling me he is too young? I am really struggling....hard to turn my back on a chance at love and a seemingly sincere heart? just need some input. Thanks

Answer 1

Demi Moore did. Go for it, honey. Take a chance.  

Answer 2

go for it! age is just a number.. ; ]

Answer 3

whats wrong with you liking this young man? if your not attracted to him keep him as a friend in your life cause he does seem too care about you.  

Answer 4

you like him then date him.

age anit nuthin but a number.

Answer 5

try it my aunt and uncle did it she was 28 and he is 50 so its even bigger of an age gap and they seem very happy together  

Answer 6

I think it's very much up to the individuals. I have recently ended a relationship with a younger guy (I'm 43, he's 29; we were very close for about 4 1/2 years). No regrets, he's awesome and it was an amazing relationship. I think that part of the reason it worked is we gave each other respect and space and realized that we were different people at different phases of our lives (I'm 43, single mom, raised a 21 year old, been on my own since age 16, lucrative career,etc...He was living at home pursuing a PHd in Neuroscience, never lived on his own...so we had very different life experiences). But it really worked well because he did his thing, and I did mine. I was never tempted to be his sugar mama, lol or try to change him/mold him. I've seen other mature women do this (purposely or just because , you know ..we know what we want). It always blows up in the end. We had many common interests and differences as well. It just really worked. The s*x, wow, insane..til the very end. But again, that's more a product of our connection.

Anyway, I guess my advice would be enjoy each other until you don't, respect each other, realize that you are at different points and allow that to be okay.  Don't try to change each other and take it as it comes. Kind of like you would if there wasn't an age difference ;-)

Lucky you...me ,too..I used to think people were just being goofy when they asked if my daughter was my sister, lol! You must have a young heart , too ...enjoy!

Oh, btw...Before Ry, I actually never dated anyone younger than me at all..just not my thing (not that there is a thing wrong with it of course). It really was for us, just two people that were truly meant to share part of our lives together. We're still friends and I'm sure we will remain such.  

Good luck to you!

Answer 7

go call him right now and tell him to pick you up ;] liek yeah you should go for him

Answer 8

I think love is worth the chance take it if it works out you'll never be sorry if it doesn't work out then you learned more about your self on the journey if nothing else take advantage of some romance he is over age and so are you good luck I hope I was help-full and I Hope it works out for you both  

Answer 9

If he knows your age and has no problem with it then go for it. Even if it doesn't work in the long run (sorry it may sound cynical) you will still have good time. I have 13 years difference with my partner (it's LGBT in case you didn't notice) but i think it's more difficult in heterosexual relationship. He might want kids of his own later or his friends might frown upon it and so on. I really depends on how mature and ready for commitment he is.

Answer 10

I have a friend who was 51 and her young man was 21 when they fell in love.  They are still together after 25 years.   It wouldn't be for me.  I'm not attracted to younger men.  But it is possible.  

Any relationship is alot of hard work.  This one will be no different, with the added burden of the difference in age.  But if both of you are determined to make the relationship take first priority you can make it work.

Answer 11

Go for it! What do you have to loose? You are already falling for him, it's not as if you were feeling indifferent to him.

Again, go for it!

Answer 12

he's the legal age. keep building that relationship and see what happen. GO WITH YOUR HEART!!