Subliminal Message? ?

Question

So, my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. I know he's saving for a ring and all the stuff. He's also said that a year from now, "everything in our life's will be so much different." So, I'm guessing he's going to propose between now and this time next year.

Anyway, we aren't the type of couple to daydream about our future wedding. Although, I do frequent this section and I bank some cute wedding ideas in my head for the future. However, there is one thing I do notice about him.

We love to go for walks on the beach on the weekends. Usually, we'll go out to eat and then walk on the beach. We occasionally visit this one beach that's near the edge of a lovely harbor. Every time we go there, he says, " Harbor View is down here." Harbor View is the name of a really lovely wedding reception venue. But, I just don't get it....he says it every single time. Finally, the last time he said it was like, "Yes, I know. You say that every time we come down here" He didn't say anything.

But, it got me thinking. Is that where he wants to get married? After all, he says it every single time we go down there. We also visit a beach on the opposite side of the harbor. On clear nights, you can see the outline of the buildings. He'll say, "ohh, look there's Harbor View"

I wouuld hate to bring up where we are going to get married so early, only because who knows if we will even be able to afford such a reception venue. But, I just can't get over him saying it all the time. I've caught him saying it 4/5, maybe even 6 times within the last few months.

So, what do we think? It's not a huge deal. I'm just bored and I keep thinking about how he always brings it up. It's so funny to me.

Answer 1

Try and just let it go until he actually pops the question. Once you are officially engaged, then you can start worrying about receptions venues. Let him dream for now. Once you are budgeting you can see if it will work or you can explain that it just isn't realistic for you to spend that much money on the venue.  

Answer 2

By the sounds of it I'm pretty sure your right in reading the message, he wants to get married there. Maybe the best thing to do is just be really blunt and ask him 'do you want to get married at harbor view' it might surprise him into an honest answer

Answer 3

Well, I am not at all experienced in this kind of situation but it sounds like he really does want to get married, to you, and have the reception be at 'Harbor View'. Try to talk to him about it, sounds like he wants to have a conversation about it, but can not find the right words.

Answer 4

aww... that's cute. i think he does want to get married there. it sounds lovely. i think you guys should save up and get married there. i think it's what he really wants.

you two sound like a cute couple. walks on the beach, haha so romantic! i hope i fall in love with a nice guy someday. (sigh) now you've got me daydreaming.  

Answer 5

He definitely wants to get married there!

I'd say wait until you guys are looking for a wedding venue (even though it may be a while) then bring it up to him!

Answer 6

Hmm...don't get mad at me, playing Devil's Advocate here...  What if he's standing at the harbor, looking at the view, and the name of the venue is comical to him.  "Here I am at the harbor, looking at the view of...Harbor View!"

It's tough to decipher what someone else is thinking through words.  We are only getting your side here...

Why not say, the next time he mentions the Harbor View, something like, "That's such a beautiful place.  We should take a tour!"  That will smooth over the rough feelings he might have of your comment when he last said it.

Or, not knowing your relationship at all you would know if this would work or not, just ask point blank: Do you think that you want to get married there? something like that.

FYI: many of my friends and relatives told me that they thought their bf was going to propose MANY times before he actually did.  Kind of like setting the stage to keep you guessing.  (I'm quite happy my husband did not, but I was fully prepared for it!)

Answer 7

Typically, serial killers like to lay out there plans to their victims before hand.  A kind of manuscript for the act.  He may be warning you that he may lose control and actually do it.  Beware.

Answer 8

I think that the next time you are there you should bring it up before he gets the opportunity to do so, just to see what his reaction is.  Let us know!