Subtle Bully - please help me!! I'M 22. ?

Question

Hey there, I cannot believe this is happening to me, but I am 22 and I feel that I am being bullied at university.

The ring leader of the group who is lovely to others and friends with everyone, over the last 6months has shown disinterest, agitation around me and has said subtle hurtful things at times where it goes unnoticed.

I am constantly nice to her, and get shunned over and over again. I think it has affected my relationships with the others in the group, and how they view me - as they are so close to her. Although I have spoken to one on the issue and she has acknowledged it.

I think the reasons are because I am ME - also...

- Im a few years younger than her

- I do TV/extra work, and she has no interest in it and i think she thinks im 'full of myself' because of this (which is pathetic)

- I love performing arts, acting

- I am a bit of a poser in photographs, which is just what I naturally do.

But then again, I am a very nice person. And she resents me, for some reason?? Ive never said a bad word about her.

This is absolutely cutting me up.

PLEASE, what is the best advice for me to continue on with this.

Should I keep ignoring it?

Should I confront her?

What do you think her problem is given the information?

Thanksss in advance!!!

PLEASE HELP ME

Im sick of feeling

- Isolated

- Insecure and nervous around her

Answer 1

um honey sorry to say this but it's time for you to drop her and find some real friends. Tell her you dont appreciate the way she treats you and if she doesnt take you seriously, just leave. All the things you stated show that she is just a bad friend and dont think it will get better cause it wont.She will get worse and worse and it's better for you to find your true friends NOW! You deserve to have friends that care about you and love you.Good luck

Answer 2

I would dump her, but if you can't and don't want to, it's time to be confrontational. When she says some subtle mean thing, call her out on it. Say, "What do you mean by that?" or "Why would you say that?" If you think she's insecure about something, ask her if she is. Don't let her get away with it. Or, if you feel you have enough long-term evidence, confront her. Call her out. Tell her you feel like you're in high school again with all the mean girls who don't have the balls to take up issues like adults. You have to let her know that she can't sublty do this and not get embarrassed or outed.