Successful marriages after dating military for a short amount of time?

Question

I'm very interested in anyone's stories about how they met, how long they were engaged or knew the person they were marrying, if their marriage is/was a success of failure. Anything!

I'm getting married to the most amazing, gorgeous MP in the world next week and I'm just really interested in other people's military wedding, relationship, marriage, etc. stories.

Where based, how many times moved, how many children, what non military job does your significant other have, pets, hard times during deployment, etc.

Answer 1

My boyfriend is in Special Forces so he is always training, etc., but we still manage to work it out.  The way we met is actually kind of crazy and sounds wierd (it was wierd for us, too).  Six months ago I found out my sister who had just gotten married and moved to North Carolina to be a teacher was pregnant!  I was really excited but the problem was that she had juust moved down there and didn't know many people (it's a military town).  So, I packed up my son and moved down with her. (his dad is not in any way involved in his life, by the way)  Before I moved down I was curious to see what kind of people lived there so I looked on Myspace..  I looked at a bunch of profiles but didn't write to anyone (I think that's creepy).  Thhen I came across this one of a guy..  You couldn't really see him in the picture, but I clicked it anyways and saw that he had a load of pictures of a cute little girl around my son's age..  Thinking it was cool that he had a daughter, I kept looking at the pictures..   He just happened to be gorgeous, used to play football at Texas Tech University, loved kids, and was a green berret.  Well, I wrote to him about his daughter..  We wrote for the week before I moved down there (turns out it was his niece that he had pictures of and he just loves kids.  Big plus)  Well I had initially thought I wasn't going to get serious with anyone because I had been burnt a lot..  I wanted to try re-creating myself and becoming less dependent on the guys I date.  Well, I ended up meeting up with Justin because he seemed like a great guy..  He was really good looking, yes (John Cena & Nick Lachey mix, absolutely no joke), but I wasn't really sure I wanted to be in a relationship..  We were together all of the time from the first few weeks we knew each other..  Just ended up that he was almost exactly like my dad, amazing with kids, honest, loyal, smart, gorgeous...  I know a lot of his friends may think that because I have a kid that I'm using him for 'money' (which is definately not true considering I passed up a chance with a guy who made muuch more money in my home town) because he is a military guy or just because he's good looking..  To be honest his looks are absolutely nothing next to his personality and how well we are together.  We've been together 5 months now and in that time we've endured some rough rocks.  He met my family and they absolutely loved him (especially my dad, and that's huge to me) and the same with his family.  I realize 5 months doesn't sound like a long time, but I have been basically living with him for those 5 months, then through the trials of everyday life with a one and a half year old..  He really is my best friend and the most incredible person I've ever met. =)

Answer 2

Don't do it.  The military life is a 1000% more stressful than regular life.  Stop focusing on how hot the person is in appearance because looks won't fix any possible defects in character.  If you haven't been dating at least a year and haven't had long serious conversations about money, family, children, religion, military life and anything else under the sun you are s******g yourself.  Yes I do believe in marriage but the baby sitting I have to do every day with every paygrade of person that works for me or with me because they got married fast to some crazy person they barely knew is huge.  If you don't know everything there is to know about the person other than they look hot you need to put the breaks on the marriage until you do.  Nothing good comes from fast marriages.  I am active duty, my husband is active duty and we saw eye to eye on nearly everything before getting married.  We are nearly the only couple we know with our stuff squared away.  We have twin toddlers and I know people that can't even take care of themselves.  If divorce is something you are looking for in the near future jump in with both feel before you learn the things I mentioned.   It is cool to be excited about someone you love but there is nothing exciting about getting divorced because you really had no clue about the person you married or their military lifestyle.

Answer 3

I actually met my husband at McDonald's when he was home on leave! He cousin was dating my best friend. I thought he was strange because he just stared at me and didn't talk. Later on I finally just asked why he didn't talk, he said "you are so beautiful, I am nervous"!  As I told you already, we didn't date long before marrying. Our marriage is a dream come true.

And there is nothing wrong with you saying how attracted you are to your man, good for you! After all you did say he was amazing too! My husband wore his Class Bs (it was summer time) and I had an amazing white wedding dress. We were married at a war monument next to these beautiful waterfalls in our hometown. Our reception was at my parent's house. We planned it in two weeks and it was perfect.

We have had two different duty stations but I have moved 8 times in 5 years. Between 3 different states. My husband left me both times I was pregnant and I didn't want to give birth to our sons without family. We have two wonderful little boys. We also have red tail boa that is five years old and a mini weenie dog that is 10 weeks.

Deployments are always hard but there are ways to make them easier. Our boys and I wore custom made buttons of my husband with his picture and rank on it, while he was gone. Plus I had a custom deployment bracelete too! For our anniversary I made a quilt for him that had our family pictures on it! He said it was the best to come back drain and wrap up in his family. It covered his bed and showed everyone how proud we are of him! There are lots of fun things you can do. I am a stay at home which allows me to travel with him when I can. I love it!

Answer 4

My husband and I decided to get married right before he went to basic. I was only 17 so we had to drive to a different state that allowed non custodial parents to sign for you. I wore a skirt that i borrow from my sis-in-law and shirt from K-mart lol...we got married at a park in town then drove back home so i could get to work at 5. Nobody in my family knew except my dad because i needed him to sign for me. My husband then went to a hotel with other soon to be soldiers so that he could go get his MEPS physical in the morning. And i went back to our house. We were together for three years before getting married and had one child together. Now we have two children and expecting our third. We have moved four times in the last three years. He has been to NTC twice and deployed once. He just re-enlisted for MP and is scheduled to go to school for that in about two weeks. Even though we got married young and everybody said the odds were against us and bla bla bla we are still going strong three years later.

Answer 5

My hubby and I were actually married before he joined the military.  We were married for about a year and half when he went in.  He has been in for 8 years and counting.  It has it's ups and downs but as long as you have good communication and you are not a jealous than ever wife you will be good.  I have met people that are so jealous that it is so bad.  Your hubby is going to be working with females but as long as you trust your hubby and you have good communication you will be good.

We have been to Ft Polk for 4 1/2 years....Ft Gordon for 18 months....and Ft Leonard Wood for 2 years and soon to be Germany in about 3 months.  We have 2 kids 9 and 6.  My hubby has been deployed 3 times and so many field times and school too many too count!!!!  

Answer 6

My wife and I met in 1965. Seven months later we were married. I was a Petty Officer Second Class at the time. I retired as a Lieutenant Commander. In the intervening years we had about 16 different residences in the 14 years of marriage during the remainder of my military career. Those residences were on both sides of the Pacific Ocean and on both coasts of the continental United States. Though my ship was forward deployed in Japan, we did have separations when I went to sea. Because of the type of vessel and the security aspects which surrounded it, I could not even tell her when I would be leaving port. However, she was notified 24 hours prior to our arrival back in port and could meet me at the pier. Throughout it all my wife remained a home maker.

BTW, last month we celebrated our 42nd anniversary.  

Answer 7

My boyfriend is currently stationed as a recruiter and we met because one of my friends was in his DEP. We've known each other since December... We've been dating since May... And we're moving in together in October. We're in an incredible relationship and neither of us could be happier :-)