Suggestions on getting ex's stuff back to him?

Question

He said that he doesn't like to talk to me after a month of silence (and I haven't seen him in 2 months), and I could tell in his voice that he hasn't been very happy and pleasant -- it kind of sounded like it was because I sent him a few texts for support during that month, but I don't know.

I know he wants to be alone now and I don't really want to bother him. He called my roommate yesterday saying that he wanted to come over and get his guitar hero when I'm not here. But the problem is that he has A LOT of other stuff here that he didn't mention wanting to get or will likely get if he comes over.

Idk whether to message him and ask if I could drop stuff off at his house in a couple weeks before he leaves for Grad School or to just show up unexpected to drop it off after a couple weeks so he cools off??

Any suggestions as to what you think would be better??

Answer 1

Put all items in box.  

Make appointment for him to pick them up

Why should he be allowed to rustle around in your personal space while you are not there?

Cut your losses and move on, and be happy!  It is time for you to concentrate on your education and your career & life goals, not some silly boy, anyway.

Answer 2

Never drop in unexpectedly.  I would get all of his stuff together,  put it in the living room or wherever and call him, let him know it's there and work out a time when he can come and you are out of the house.  Let him know that you expect him to get it all, you are not a free storage place tactfully.

Answer 3

you call him and tell him if he wants his stuff he can come get it on your porch and if he doesn't come get it he'll find it in the trash.